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I am sick of the stupid cell phone, and affairs. I'm almost thinking they should be banned from marriages with infidelity.<P>Questions for my survey before I make up my mind..... If you could please respond.<P>In your infidel marriage, who owned the cell phone... betrayer or betrayed or both.<P>Thanks. I just might stomp my husband's to death like Kyra did. No, nothing happened. I just think those darn cell phones allow privacy from the marriage.... I think. ???<P><BR>
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No cell phone in this infidelity story. Just the internet, work phones, and work travel (and damn blind trust).<P>------------------<BR>RobinAnn<P>*********<P>Blessed are the flexible, for they shall not be bent out of shape!
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No cell phone, but a pager he had from work but never before used and phone cards allowed the deed at work and I fear from home, although he denies.<P>Thank goodness he only learned to use e-mail in the last month, otherwise that could have been a problem, too.
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Betrayer in most recent. Don't know if she used the previous cell phone in other affairs. Probably did if one was going on. However, I don't think she was having an affair when she got the first one or when we both had one. I had the service turned off after she went on a wild spending spree (with my help because she didn't like my saying no, I knew the creditors would eventually say NO. It took the creditors saying no for her to get the picture.) that caused me to have to work part time jobs.<P>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR>
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I have one for work purposes. My egocentric, infantile, aggressive, un-empathetic Super X had one for personal purposes. Strangely, I bought it for her when she was pregnant with our second child. However, I wouldn't want to smash it, even now. Because of that cell phone, I know things about her now that I may never have known. I think I'll send the phone company a Christmas card and a tip this year.
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We both have cell phones.<BR>We both have pagers.<BR>We both have our own email accounts.<P>Too much privacy + Too easy access = Intiamcy lost<P>I'm for a bonfire.
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My wife had a cell phone & she would call the OM everyday after she left to go to work and just before she left to come hom<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A> <BR>
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OH BOY! Hot topic....<BR>We both have cell phones.<BR>I have a pager (so H could reach me when out of cell phone range & also for work)<BR>Both had separate e-mail accts.<P>H had over 100 calls to the twinky in a 4 week period on 2 different cell bills, not including the calls from her, or calls he made from work or home. Not to mention that they work together at least 4 days a week.<P>I "reposessed" his phone after I got the 1st bill, & he told me he wanted me to leave again...... only took him a couple of days to get a new one. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <BR><P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>
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I have the cell phone, however never used to called OM.<P>
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betrayer:<BR>work cell phone<BR>personal cell phone (I see bill)<BR>work pager<BR>free 1-800 calling card from work-unlimited and unmonitored<BR>work email<BR>home email protected by password<BR>worked with OW-had so much privacy, he managed to live with her for months without my knowledge<P>betrayed:<BR>email w/ no password needed<BR>personal cell phone (H sees bill)<BR>personal pager (and only H has the number-he bought it for me, i dont use it at all)<p>[This message has been edited by love WAS blind (edited September 08, 1999).]
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no cell phone in my affair... all contact was done in person at work.
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We both have one. His is from the company and can only be used for work related things (or so he says).
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We both have cell phones and pagers and E-Mail. H (betrayer) never used cell phone to contact OW. I get the bills. In fact, he got the phone about the same time I discovered his last affair and didn't tell him that all his calls are listed on the bill. I don't know if he already knew that or not.
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H wanted a cell phone but we just never got it. Poor thing had to resort to phone cards, his pager and the email on his companie's LAN.<P>------------------<BR>Joan
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ME, betrayed<P>Digital Cell phone with Caller ID, voice mail, call waiting. Alpha/digital Pager, answering service.<P>HER, betrayer<P>Cell phone, had a company owned phone [mine] found HIS number on bills no more cell phone, had a company owned pager [mine], found message on voice mail from OM no more pager. Now she has an analog cell phone by herself and I don't see the bills. This was the first thing she changed when asked to leave. I WONDER WHY.<P>It seems with the advancement of technology that we lose something more important. Live communication with the ones we care about.<P>What happened to the good old days when a marriage actually meant something? The days that you weren't a disposable comodity.<P>Sorry, just a little irritated because of all the smoke blown up my @ss.<P>Still wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic
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TNT<BR>My H has the cell phone. It is long distance to the OW. He called her a minimum of 5 times a day for 5 months. Would anyone like to wager the amount of the bills?<P>Just an after thought. I wouldn't let him give it up for anything. That is the only way I know what is going on because I can access his messages and I see the bills.<BR>The first step towards trust was March 8.<BR>He left his cell phone at home the day after he called her to "end" it. It can be a good or bad thing. Depending on your perception.<p>[This message has been edited by wasstubborn (edited September 08, 1999).]
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Add me to this list.<BR>Husband (betrayer) had the cell phone. He would call OW everyday, several times a day. He would even call her on the weekends when I was in the house with him.<BR>He also had a lap top computer (supllied by his employers) that had secret passwords to everything. He would 'hide the laptop' as well as the cell phone, in the closet before he would go to bed. He was always the first one up, so I was never able to get access to them.<BR>I would also like to add, the cell phone bill the first month they were together totaled over $400.00, which came directly out of his paycheck. <P>Cheryl
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WS,<BR>Ouch.... I can only imagine. Probably about 5-600/mo?? <BR>I told my H last week that if he had spend 1/2 the time he spends talking to twinky, talking to ME.... we probably wouldn't be in this situation right now!!! He agreed.... I was shocked! But did that change anything???????? NOPE. He told me his new cell phone has 500 weekday minutes & 500 weekend minutes included in the service..... wish I could find out how often he goes over. <P>------------------<BR>My favorite quote....<BR>"Hello, this is God. I will be handeling your problems today. I will not need your help, so sit back and have a good day."<BR>
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Much like ceecee, H had a cell and a pager. Discovered affair per phone bill. He, too, made calls from the cell while inside the house. He would turn the phone off when he was w/her. He didn't hide the pager or phone, just kept it within arms reach while at home, even while sleeping. That bugged me to no end, he was like a slave to these things...like it was his lifeline. Got into a big blowup one night and asked him to leave. He agreed and the only thing he grabbed was that d*** pager, not even clothes, toothbrush, etc. I snatched the pager and through it out into the street and proceeded to smash it! I thought he would kill me! He was not happy. He replaced it the next day.<P>She had a pager and I believe a cell (when she could afford to pay the bill). I know she also used a code when she paged him.
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Both of us (and both of us are both betrayed and betrayer).<P>Yep we each had all the essentials of what I call an affair start-up kit. Cell phones (with voice mail capabilities), pagers, private p.o. boxes, and the internet! All the conveniences at our fingertips!
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