Hi,<BR>I dont post here often anymore because H reads what I write.I feel so frustrated because the betrayed here on mb are the only ones who truly understand,and i have to keep my thoughts to myself.<BR>I am having a hard time forcing my self to fill out divorce papers,I would rather clean the bathroom,or do just about any thing else.<BR>i did not want this divorce, and i still dont to this day.I need some encouragement to get this done.Love and prayers,bethn

I don't know your story BethN but I am so sorry for what you are going through. I could read the despair in your post, and I wanted to let you know that someone is here for you. <P>Are you initiating the divorce or do you need to sign them? How long has your separation been? Any possible way to hold off divorce, or do you feel it's over? <P>If you don't want this divorce then don't do anything yet. Wish I could give you a big HUG!! Sending you good thoughts and many blessings. MT

Hi Beth,<BR> Don't do anything till you feel it is right. Want to come clean my bathroom too? I am more of the apathy type, I haven't cleaned my bathroom in a long while. I don't even want to tell you what the toilet looks like. I keep thinking I will have plenty of time this long dark winter alone.<P>Geeze, way to cheer you up huh? Please post more, I still say if their lives are so pathetic that all they have to do is read your posts and heckle you, then their relationship must be a real drag.<P>Will talk to you again,<BR>Lora

Dear Beth,<P>I agree with MT -- don't do anything toward accomplishing the divorce if you don't want it. Make him do it! I made the same decision and I haven't been served yet !The only thing you *do* have to do is make sure that you are active enough in the process that you don't get steamrolled when it comes to property settlement -- if it gets that far.<P>Have you ever thought of re-registering under a new name? They might figure it out eventually, but it could give you some anonymity for awhile at least. Just a thought.<P>Hang in there and stick to your principles.<P>Love and Prayers,<BR>KristyAnn<p>[This message has been edited by KristyAnn (edited September 08, 2000).]

MT,<BR>H began looking for women on the internet,he finally found one who obviously didnt care that he was married.He moved out in The end of april ,and moved her and 2 oc's down from another state fathers day weekend,June 18th.<BR>He is initiating divorce,there is alot of paper and I have a deadline when it is to be finished.<BR>THanks so much for your good thoughts and response,it helps to know someone cares<P>Lora,<BR>I am afraid he will use something I post in court.To bad we dont live closer,could have a cleaning party,doesnt that sound like fun?(Just kidding)<P>kristyann,<BR>Hi,I have made him do all the work,but he is moving as fast as he can in this divorce,I guess he really wants it over with soon, <BR>I wonder how he feels about breaking marriage vows,maybe a little guilty.<BR>I have been bethn,soon2bx, and alone1,he found out about them all,so I have given up on changing name.<BR>Love and prayers,bethn

MT,<BR>H began looking for women on the internet,he finally found one who obviously didnt care that he was married.He moved out in The end of april ,and moved her and 2 oc's down from another state fathers day weekend,June 18th.<BR>He is initiating divorce,there is alot of paper and I have a deadline when it is to be finished.<BR>THanks so much for your good thoughts and response,it helps to know someone cares<P>Lora,<BR>I am afraid he will use something I post in court.To bad we dont live closer,could have a cleaning party,doesnt that sound like fun?(Just kidding)<P>kristyann,<BR>Hi,I have made him do all the work,but he is moving as fast as he can in this divorce,I guess he really wants it over with soon, <BR>I wonder how he feels about breaking marriage vows,maybe a little guilty.<BR>I have been bethn,soon2bx, and alone1,he found out about them all,so I have given up on changing name.<BR>Love and prayers,bethn