Hi All,<P>This morning I received an email from my SIL, who I am close with, saying that H is "thinking". Can you guys please read this and give me your thoughts?<P><BR>*********************************************<BR>Hi Joanne,<BR> <BR>How are things? Anything new? I had e-mail from Steve a while ago that sounded like he's "feeling" all the stuff that he's going through. I think he's out of denial and really facing the cold hard facts. I wish I could help him. I know he has to get through this on his own or he'll never learn.<BR> <BR>Let me know how you're doing.<BR> <BR>I can't sleep so I'm sending e-mail to everyone. Call me if you want.<BR> <BR>Love,<BR>SIL<BR>*********************************************<P>p.s. I am going to respond to my thread regarding "seeing someone while separated" just haven't had the time yet. Please be patient!<P>Best,<BR>Jo<P>------------------<BR>Josie_Res@Hotmail.com<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"

Jo:<P>I think that you have to spend less time "reacting" to what you're husband's doing, and ACTING in a way that you think is appropriate (and gives your marriage a chance).<P>It's information, but there's no way to be able to judge the reliability of it---not because of your SIL, but rather because of your husband's "confused mental state".<BR>

Jo, I think it is good that he is "thinking".... but hasn't he been doing that for a while. <P>I think what we want them to do is "feel" it.<P>I know that's what I would like my H to do, but he's not.....and I don't even think he is thinking about it...just compartmentalizing it all.<P>Keep up your good work with yourself, but hey, what is this about meeting someone.<P>Tell me what you are thinking about it all???<P>Try not to react. Believe me, I want to too. I want to run and hide one minute and the next I want to say sayanora and move on.<P>What I am finding is working the best...for me right now, is to do nothing. Keep me posted.