Hi there...dogbert thought I may be able to help you with your issues on independance vs. dependancy...<P>I could not find the thread you were posting on before (Poll...) so I thought I would seek you out.<P>My H has been travelling extensively for the last 6 years, leaving me to do a lot of the daily grind stuff and the big stuff like plowing, getting wood, etc. and raising the kids. We have 5 but have whittled it down to only 2 being left in the home with me.<P>When I first met my honey, I was probably a lot more dependant than I am now. Over time I had to cope with doing things on my own as I do not get a lot of support from my family.<BR>I did get very independant and my H was not all that thrilled. I am sure he is very happy that I am able to function while he is away, but I think it is a fine line when he is home and wants me to rely more on him...I am still working on figuring it out but I think it has to do with attitude...I tend to get stubborn sometimes <P>We live a mile out in the woods and I too feel isolated sometimes. I would love to share stories and see if there is anything I can do to help you out. If you prefer to email me direct my address is linda@teddybear.mv.com - I will be looking for your response. <P>Hope you are having a good day!

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She is mostly around the Emotional Needs forum...

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by kam6318:<BR><B>She is mostly around the Emotional Needs forum...</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>thanks for the help!!

HI Starry Eyed - <P>I wrote back to you via the message on the emotional needs forum (thanks Kathi for directing her to my usual cruising spot!)<P>I think my husband at this point wishes I would be more independent minded and for the most part when he's gone, I just plain ol' have to be. <P>But I really like things better when I'm not running everything, and I refuse to mow the lawn or do things that I consider his 'job.'<P>I do take care of the household maintenance, <BR>the kids, shopping, bill paying, errands and then mostly anything that crops up when he's not here. <P>But one thing I have a real problem with is having to attend lots of things with the kids alone. It's not all the time...But it's more than I'd like and it trigger memories of my childhood and my father never going anywhere or doing anything with my mother and me. <P>Of course the huge important difference is that my father sat on the couch all the time and my husband is in a high level position and works his tail off to keep us in a good standard of living. So the similarities end there. <P><p>[This message has been edited by Lisanne (edited September 13, 2000).]