If somebody likes you they love you or is it yes your a nice guy as a H/W but I'm no longer in love with you!!!<P>My wife has told me that she no longer loves me but she says that I'm a good man. Is it possible to like someone but no longer love them.

My h is there...He does not feel love for me, or feel for my pain and humiliation, and he doesn't have the passion any more(not physically attractive to him)<P>He says he loves the OW, and that he feels "wonderful" and that "she worships" him. <P>He also says that he could never hate me. That he likes me and I am a good person, but that is all right now. <P>He has also not tatally recommitted to our marriage, he has not dropped the OW. No progress for us. So I am just working on myself.<P>Like someone else said at MB, <B>don't let your self worth be measured by any one else</B>, No matter what our S's feel, they are losing the best thing they ever had, and with a little work it could be theirs again. <P>They are fools.<P>We all pray our WS come to their senses and NOT throw away a wonderful life they have worked so hard for!!!

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Hi Mvalcolla:<P>After you've been around here a while you'll realize that you have just heard Item No. 2 in the betrayer's book of "Trite Things To Say to Your Mate Upon Leaving Them for OP?"<P>We often wonder if there is a common book which is required reading for betrayers because the spiel is so similar.<P>Don't take what she says to heart right now, its all part of the fog she's in. Certainly don't base any decisions about the future of your marriage on these "tritisms".<P>Welcome aboard. Stay awhile, read a bit and learn alot, then you'll begin to see what she is really saying...usually "I need, but I'm not getting" or "I tried but you wouldn't listen." But it all comes out sounding like "I don't love you anymore...but you're a hell of a nice guy. See ya!!!"<P>Buffy<BR>

Burnedspose & Buffy,<BR>Thanks for your comments this is exactly whats happening. I can see there's a lot of fog out there. The only thing that really confuses me is S has been showing a lot of affection lately. But OM is in contact with her on cell phone. What's gud is W tell's me everything (I HOPE) thats going on and am sure non real intimacy (DON'T REALLY KNOW).<BR>This EA has been going on and off from jan with high point in march. I've learned to have patience-patience but sometimes its hard. <BR>Tks<BR>j<BR>