<B>Dr. K</B><BR>I like your idea...getting sucked into counseling that way seems....well....I like it!<P><B>schizzo</B><BR>I appreciate your thoughts about teaching your spouse. I hope your H gets it soon. I know how you feel about not being treated special on your birthday. Maybe next year .<P><B>Sailor</B><BR>Hey buddy! I almost fell out of my chair when I saw your name pop up! What a great surprise to see a post from you. I guessed that maybe you were living happily ever after. Yep, I'm still here. I actually signed off for a while - thought I made it. But, I'm back. I hoping things aren't as bad as they seem. Things have been good the last day or two. Maybe the discussion we had helped? I'm going day to day right now. I hope things are OK with you. Do you have my email address? I would love to hear from you/<P>SHA<P>------------------<BR>There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

SHA,<BR>I don't get over here much as I'm trying to wean myself from the forum, but I want to extend my deepest sympathy to you and my greatest encouragement to you.<P>I guess this is a like all other addictions, the addicted occaisonally fall off the "wagon" and return to their addiction of choice.<P>You probably know that there are only a couple ways to handle this. One is go back to square one and start Plan Aing your a$$ off again and try to figure out how you can get around her views of what your are "doing" to her. <P>Plan B is available, but would be difficult if you are still living together.<P>And Divorce, if you can no longer take and just want out. I can understand this because I too went thru numerous "reconciliations" although none of them lasted more than a few hours and the longest about a week.<P>So I do understand where you are coming from.<P>Hang in there man, don't make any snap decisions just yet.<BR>God Bless,<P>Bob

Hey RWD,<P>Good to hear from you again too! <P>I appreciate the encouragement and support - those are always welcomed. Divorce isn't in either of our minds right now; which is a good thing. As for Plan B, well, I believe that staying together is the best way to solve this problem. If she wanted out I would let her, but she doesn't. I'm hoping this is as you state "falling" off the wagon. Perhaps she will identify it as just that and the need to get her stuff together to get over this. Deep down she has a lot of issues to work through. As long as she is willing to keep moving forward (especially after a setback), I'm willing to hang in there with her. TYhe last couple days have been good. We'll see what happens as the days pass. <P>I hope you are well. I always appreciate your insight. <P>Thanks, <P>SHA<P>------------------<BR>There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved.

Hello my Friend.....<P>I am sorry to be delayed in getting to your threads....<P>I am not ignoring you and will write soon. Am stuck in a bad place right now and you have had enough of your own.<P>Divorce Day tomorrow (9/15) probably and am kind of freaking out about it. I know, I know.....it's a step......what will be will be!!! If I could stop crying, it would help!!! ACK!!!<P>Say some prayers for me if you would and know that I keep you in mine always.<P>Glad that you spoke with her and I like K's suggestion!!!! But you knew that, right? <P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba <P>