Sheba...<P>Sorry... I couldn't get back to you earlier...<P>...you guessed it...<P>as I completed my reply.... I got kicked off by Steve's "Merge of GQ and GQII". Couldn't even post a reply to the GQII post I started (I guess that's what Steve means by <B>locking out</B>... now it's another "read only")<P>In any case...<P>--------------------------------------------<P>I've been a bit too busy getting together my own legal documents for the trial (10/10)...<BR>...I really hate this stuff.<P>Unlike your trial... mine will undoubtedly be a very contested and ugly one.<P>To protect my kids education money, I have to provide documentation on how my wife "fraudulently" stole (almost all of) my stepson's $30,000+ social security benefits...<BR>...yuck!<P>Then my stepson himself is having real psychological problems....<BR>...but won't take his medication (for ADHD or for depression)<BR>...won't go to counseling<BR>...won't get a job<BR>...won't talk to his bio-father (his mom convinces SS that his bio-F is a stalker)<BR>...sits around all day... doing near ZERO.<P>Now Steve puts this merge on and I had to update my <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000013.html" TARGET=_blank>Notable Posts/Threads</A> post and a few others...<BR>...he did a real weird merge... <P>so...<BR>...life is still a bit complicated.<P>------------------------------------------<P>About your post (post-divorce)...<BR>...it sounds like you know where you're headed.<P>I'm happy for you... <P>I know the stumbling stones that cross your path aren't going to stop you...<P>Yes...<BR>...you are strong<BR>...you are wise<P>...you'll make it!<P>Prayers for a happy life...<BR>...God will take care of you my friend!<P> <P>Jim

Thanks NSR -<P>That's why I wanted to hear from you - to see how your preparation is coming.<P>I am sorry that you have to have a "battle" about the money.....It is not your doing, though - it is hers, so keep that in mind. It will be very difficult, but the ending of the marriage and the money part can be kept separate from your true feelings about the woman your wife was - and still may be under all the garbage she has piled on top of herself.<P>I am very concerned about your son - what is going on there? Will he talk with you at all? Let us help if we can.<P>BIG HUGS and please know that I pray for you and the kids and that you all will get through this leg of the journey as smoothly as possible.<P>It might help you to make a thread to purge all that you are feeling about everything out - let us comfort you for a change!!!!<P>Love ya,<P>Sheba

Sheba...<P>Yep... my plate is full...<P>My W is taking the kids this weekend...<BR>...and I'm on a (religious) retreat... <BR>...I think I need it now!<P>My son is confused in terms of loyalty.<BR>He wants his money...<BR>...but loves his mom.<P>He wants to be independent...<BR>...but listens to his mom about his bio-father.<BR>...this is just too confusing to me.<P>I'll be praying on it.<P>I plan to have a bigger post next week to fill everyone on where I am at...<BR>...this will be after I speak with my attorney!<P>Love... <P>Jim<BR>