I just wanted to say Thank You to those of you who have responded to my posting... "Having an Affair". I did not come here with the intent of finding people to tell me that yes it will work out, and that he will leave his wife. I came here to get a clear perspective. To see it from someone else's eyes. I know I have only been seeing things the way that I want to see them. Those of you who have responded have helped me quite a bit. I am trying to work through this whole mess. I am a good person, and I do want what is best for his family in general. I now see that he will not leave his wife, and how much pain this would cause if anyone found out. I don't want to hurt his family or my husband. Reading through alot of these postings, and reading what people who have been cheated on by their spouse have gone through has opened up my eyes. Had I not come here I probably would have felt that maybe what I was doing wasn't so bad, and that I deserved to be happy. Thank you for helping me see the real situaiton that I am in. A MILLION THANKS to you!!!!!!!

JustMe10457:<P>I hope you stay here, because if you are giving up OM you will experience pain and withdrawal. There are a lot of people who will support you.<P>Please keep posting. This is a no win situtation for anyone involved.<P>Judy

I am very pleased with your decision...I wish my H's OW would come to the same conclusion!<P>I am proud of you, but it is hard. We will keep you heading the right way, if that is your desire. <P>Congratulations.