I am desperate to catch him at this office romance. Need any ideas on setting him and her up. I have his email address and hers at work. I dont know what she looks like or the extent of the involvement, I have read lovey emails from her, thankyou for gifts, etc. ANY ideas would be appreciated.

YOU NEED A THIEF TO CATCH A THIEF. YOU NEED A SLEAZEBAG TO CATCH ONE. Although I am not criminally minded or sleazebag (I am a Betrayed S), I think my wild imagination may work something out. I have been called creative thinker and lateral minded often, so, if it works, don't call me names, okay?!<P>1. Go to yahoo.com or an account that your husband uses, and create a new account, such as ITSME.com or something your H may use. At a good time (according to the type of message used), email OW : my latest email, just for you, the wife's gotten my password to the other account. please meet me at XXX at XXX time, darling name. Will talk more then.<P>1 a. Get a P.I. to be at that place and take pictures.<P>1.b. get her to reply you asap. (timing important)<P>2. Just geta P.I. onto them after work.<P>3. If you can afford the money, get someone (P.I.) to apply for a temp position in that company<P>4. if he has a biz trip, let him go alone, call up the ow and check if she is in the office. you can activate 1., or you can take another flight out or get a p.i. on your H in that state.<P>got to go, baby is crying. i am insomniac

Check out <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000480.html" TARGET=_blank> "Snoop Tricks for Betrayed Spouses"</A>.<P> <P>Jim<p>[This message has been edited by NSR (edited September 21, 2000).]

I didn't suspect my h's affair with a co-worker for a year because it was almost exclusively nooners at a downtown motel near their office. (He left for work at the same time he always had, but did start working a bit longer.)<P>If you are up to it, get someone to follow him at lunchtime for a couple of weeks.<P>liz

My H had a pager that Dogface used to have ring off the hook, but I could never prove it was her because he would erase his msgs before I could see them.<P>So I went out and bought a pager identical to my H's, and swapped his for mine. When Dog-Woman would call, I would page the beeper my H had so he wouldn't get suspicious, and I called the #'s to verify it was her.<P>Watching all of those talk shows paid off! :

I would suggest you try to find some of the older posts by Wexwill. I have not seen him here lately, but he is a great resource for snooping. Good Luck and be prepared for what you might find. I do hope it is nothing.