Hi All:<P>Well, I am on my knees tonight thanking the good lord that he gave me the strength to ask my husband to leave 5 months ago because he wouldn't give up OW. If not, I would still be in the middle of this mess.<P>Ok, SIL called me this afternoon, mad as a hornet, because OW had called her looking for H. Now H is at other friend's home since OW and he had a tiff about a week ago.<BR>OW told SIL she need to contact H because she had sold the trailer they were living in and she needed his signature on the paperwork.<P>SIL said she was stunned that the OW could consider the trailer her property since it was brought with inherited money from SIL's folks. SIL was H's last family ally (mostly because he is her brother and she loves him).<P>SIL called H where he's living and he said that she did have an interest in the property, which meant he had given it to her.<BR>OW also had been calling him but he had not been answering the phone. Anyway SIL told him off about giving away his parent's inheritance to that trash.<P>When SIL called me back after talking to H, I advised her not to worry...this was standard fare for OW...she is trying to get him to do something....and he's balking.<BR>They'll probably get back together.<P>Anyway, the important thing to me is that this time I am not in the big middle of it...the phone calls are not to my house...<BR>she will not show up and beat on the window in the middle of the night...he will not go running out of my house to rescue her from her drunken H (this is the first husband, who she is living with temporarily...he has custody of her kids). <P>So OW can play her little games and dig herself in deeper and I can just sit back and say to H "I'm so sorry she's putting you though this" or "Seem to be having a little trouble, dear?" heh, heh, heh. <P>"No Where to Run Now Baby, Nowhere to Hide."<BR>Life just got a little better for a little while.<P>Buffy & Faye<P>

Buffy,<P>Always warms my heart a little to see stories like this. Its like it goes according to a grand plan... let OW start to LB all over the place now. <BR>Lora

Sorry I got a msg about "flood control" and clicked the topic again. First time that ever happened.<P>Buffy & Faye

Hi Buffy,<P>So So glad to hear this. Neeenar neenar OW!!<P>Buffy, don't you ever ask yourself "Please Dear Lord, this isn't my life, is it????" I sure do. ALOT!<P>What a mess your H has made for himself. Now he's got his sister angry w/him and the Trashy OW. Doesn't he see how sorted this is, jeeeez!<P>I would like to fantisize your SIL driving over to the trailer and kicking OW's a** all over the trailer park. Then having the cops show up and have OW arrested for disturbing the peace. That would be really good Karma. But I'm sure your SIL has too much class to give the Trashy OW the time of day.<P>Now Buffy, if the phone rings and it's your H wanting you to bail him out emotionally regarding this mess, what are you gonna do? I say don't p/u the phone (hope you have caller ID). He needs to look to himself for his own emotional strength or he will learn NOTHING. Please don't be Buffy-like and be caring and loving and help him figure out what to do. He does not deserve it, he's a big boy and your really not doing him any favors if you help him. You agree Hon?<P>Love to you Buffy, your are in my thoughts alot. <P>Love,<BR>Jo

Hey Jo:<P>No, it doesn't seem like my life...it's more like a nightmare I can't wake up from.<P>Don't think he'll call me because SIL said he acted like he thought it was all very funny. That's typical of him...he knows she is just bluffing and I think he likes the drama of all of this. H is very patient and experience has shown him that she will calm down and things will be back to normal. So I won't get too excited about the possibility of their ending it. <P>My ditty about "nowhere to run" was referring to SIL and yes, she is too classy to do anything like that (although her ex did try to drown her in the local motel swimming pool)....but I've got a niece and a DIL who would do it in a minute.<BR>I just pray that OW never crosses their path or tries to do anything to me.<P>I knew this was coming...it always does...but this time he's on his own...I'm not waiting with open arms to take him back.<BR>It's really a shame though, because he had begun to be more normal in the last week. Wait and see seems to be the only way to go for now.<P>Buffy (she's the hairy one) & Faye