I need to see what this #$%## looks like. I am getting my sister to go into his place of work and deliver her flowers personally. Her looks will give me an idea of how serious this relationship is. It will also tell me how serious he is when I check his email. We wouldnt want him to be jealous now would we.

personal,<P>do you want to be with your husband and repair the relationship or do you want to start a war? I assume that you came to this board to get help in rebuilding your marriage. I would not suggest fabricating situations between them. You will end up hurting yourself in the long run. Don't do anything when you are angry. Wait until you have had a chance to calm down and really think of what's in the best interest of marriage. I can assure you that setting your husband up is not in your best interest, no matter what he has done to you.<P>Have you tried Plan A? If not, maybe you should read over it and put it into action. You would get better response from that.<P>If you really have to see this woman, go there yourself nad tell her that you love your husband and do not intend to give him up.<P>cleo<BR>

Personal,<P>I second cleopatra. I confronted OM. It backfired. My W was so attached, she wanted to protect him. It just drove them closer. <P>Use your energy to undermine her efforts when she can't be there. Remember, you have you H most of the time, so you can be the biggest influence. She has to settle for scraps of time that are thrown to her.<P>Plan A and torpedo her efforts...that is the best revenge.<P>DM<p>[This message has been edited by Dynamo (edited September 25, 2000).]

Personal,<P>I'm surprised you have been able to hold off this long without sneaking a peek at her. If I were in your shoes, I don't know if I could have held back! <P>You know, pers, even if you DID get an eyeful of this broad, it still wouldn't give you much insight into the relationship. If you see her and she's pretty, then you'll be bummed and feel sick inside. If you see her and she's not as attractive as you are, you'll STILL be bummed and sick inside. <P>It's going to take a lot of strenght to resist making some sort of contact with her. But please try to remember that it is an extremely rare occasion where a confrontation such as this brings anything positive about and I don't think your case is an exception.<P>Plus, it will be a MAJOR love buster.<P>So everybody loses - except her - she might actually get a 'kick' out of your curiosity gone wild. Don't give the wench that satisfaction! <P>Make sense?<P>Hang in there,<P>Khyra