What can I do? My wife has been involved in an affair for 18 months. We separated 12 months ago and I relocated to the east coast of Australia. She followed me back in April this year and stayed with friends for 8 weeks before asking to get back to "make the marriage work". Everything was fine until I found out the OM has been in contact with her constantly after her breaking contact with him. She now says she is in love with him and has no feelings for me and wants to get back together. We have been back together for approximately 10 weeks. The first 4 weeks were difficult but passionate between us and since then my wife has withdrawn considerably. We still are able to discuss things but she is adamant that she wants to make a new life with the OM. Any suggestions as she will not accept outside help in the way of counselling?

.<p>[This message has been edited by Trapped Mom (edited March 20, 2001).]

Sorry for this. It sounds if your reconsiliation was going great. <P>Addiction is a strong thing. Your W may have succumbed again with out trying to. But the fact that she "loves him again" means that you have to start over. Plan A or plan B, whichever you think is appropriate here. I recommend plan A until you can't anymore.<P>My H's PA resumed last week(she joined him on a business trip.) I know how you are feeling. {{{{{Cyber hugs...}}}}}