No Chris,<P>We're gonna use you as the designated male punching bag. <P>Ok, first role-playing. You get to, in turn, represent each of our husbands while we tell you exactly what we think of you...then, we get to beat you profoundly amongst the head and shoulders...yeah...then...<P>Sorry, had a little fantasy going on there.<P>If sending people in this house to their own rooms worked...my H would still be here. You are in no danger, and like my H, you are free to leave whenever you wish... <P>Hope you can come.<P>allison

Please do attend Chris!!! We all would very much like to meet the guy who's helped and supported us all so much. You've been wonderful with sound, caring advice ... Hope you really make it!<P>Allison, like the idea of a "boys" room, will the Brady boys have bunk beds???<P>Jo<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited October 04, 2000).]

<BR>You all are having fun here.. I had to drop in.<BR>I really wanna go.. but not sure yet. But I'm small so I can squeeze in!<P>Chris, Jan 5 is your anniversary?? It's my birthday! Oh, if I can make it you all have to give me gifts! How many are attending? Wow, it will be real fun! My last b-day wasn't nice(with H..) so I wanna go to have fun!<P>AHHHHHHHHHHH!(just need to scream!)<P>Meg<p>[This message has been edited by MF (edited October 04, 2000).]

Sorry, no bunk beds. My son (who is 6"7") couldn't fit on one if he had to. We are talking couches, sleeping bags, fall where you may.<P>We should get some sort of head count of people who are seriously considering coming. It's really not that far in the future. It'd be nice if people could come in close to the same times of day so the airport trips could be reduced.<P>allison...the hostess with the mostest... <BR>

I may try to make it. It sounds like fun. <P>Leon

Back to the TOP!<P>We'd like to get a roll call of the potential attendees for our MB Shindig in January in AZ.<P>Who all is tenatively planning on making it??? (post on this thread)<P>Please do try and make it, folks, we want to meet everyone!<P>God Bless ....<BR>Jo

Rockaway is definitely considering walkinghisway thataway.

Sounds like fun, have to see what that time frame brings as far as kids schedules and all, but for me it is a relatively slow month at work. It close enough I could make it (used to live and train horses in Glendale, graduated high school from Judson in Scottsdale), so it would be like trip to the past, while meeting great people. I'll definitely get back to you on this!!!<P>Lori <P>

I'm sorry if I offended anyone. I certainly didn't mean to. <P>I hope you all have a good time. When I saww the thread posting, I thought it was in reference to the gettogether being planned on the D/D board. I'm a joker at heart and that's why my initial post on this thread was a bit strong.<P>I invite those of you who wish to look over our threads about trip to Nashville and join us if you wish.<P>But you don't get to stay at my house. You get to go play lasar tag, instead.

Hey, y'all, I might be able to make a cameo after all! My H and toddler would be coming as well, so we would probably get a suite somewhere. If you want, I can even bring my showcase and do makeovers (I used to work the Lancome counter, I've worked Clinique, Estee Lauder, and now I'm doing Mary Kay and I have a TON of cool makeup samples!). Just something fun to pump everybody up!

I wish the weekend was right now!!<P>back to the top...allison

Me too Allison!<P>Where is a good escape when you need it?<P>Lora<P>

I'm there with you guys ... wish I was somewhere other than my own skin right now too!<P>When will things feel better????? When... <P>Jo

Allison Jo,<P>I read your post about H getting his own checking and coming up with the monthly allotment for you and the kids on his own. I'm so sorry, Allison.<P>You had an attorney visit today, how'd it go?<P>I haven't seen you this hurt and angry in a long time, I feel it just like you.<P>Jo

Hey Jo,<P>Next time I have a vent-fest I guess I should do it on my own thread. Feel a little goofy today, but you guys always say if I need to vent do it here. I did.<P>Jo, you're always so worried about other, how about you? How you doing? Is no contact becoming any easier with time. Do you still look for his car and stuff. Man, this is really hard stuff, I know.<P>I haven't gone to see the atty yet. I go after work tonight. I did some research today at work about good questions to ask him about my rights. My husband is a scary smart man, Jo...about financial matters...and I'm listening to others who are really pushing me on this...so confusion reigns.<P>You know, that's what is hard right now. Everyone I know is pushing me to DO SOMETHING. I think I need to learn to keep my mouth shut about my personal stuff except for here...and maybe even here LOL.<P>Jo, I'd love to know how you're coping too. I can't wait to meet you and Lora. The get together in January will get some of us through the (ugh) holidays.<P>Thanks Jo, <P>allison<P>

Carolina Belle,<P>You have a Camaro? Cool. My Mom had a '69 I learned to drive in. It rocked! <P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Hi Allison,<P>Don't let ANYONE talk you into dong ANYTHING until YOU feel ready. I can't say that enough.<P>If you're not ready for legal separation or divorce then don't do it .... BUT Allison, DO EDUCATE YOURSELF ... ALOT!<P>See an attorney and record your conversation with him/her. Tell them who your H's attorney is too, so you can get an idea of how aggressive your H is being about this whole thing.<P>I saw two attorney's, all free the first time. I got myself very educated but chose not to do anything legal as yet. I can't take it emotionally ... it hurts too much.<P>But you have kids, teenagers ... and they still need income. Lots of it too.<P>Just be aware and stay frosty Allison Jo, try and get over the hurt, live for the moment as much as you can.<P>I remember a few posts ago of yours ... you said "I Got It", remember that one? And you did have it too. Get it again, Allison, it isn't about you and the kids or the marriage ... it's about your H and something he's struggling thru. He's being a major a**hole as opposed to my H who is a major d*ckhead. LOL!<P>I need to sign off for a few. But I'll be on again this evening.<P>Can't wait for our get together, Hon!<P>Talk/type to you this evening.<P>Jo

Hi Allison,<P>Don't let ANYONE talk you into dong ANYTHING until YOU feel ready. I can't say that enough.<P>If you're not ready for legal separation or divorce then don't do it .... BUT Allison, DO EDUCATE YOURSELF ... ALOT!<P>See an attorney and record your conversation with him/her. Tell them who your H's attorney is too, so you can get an idea of how aggressive your H is being about this whole thing.<P>I saw two attorney's, all free the first time. I got myself very educated but chose not to do anything legal as yet. I can't take it emotionally ... it hurts too much.<P>But you have kids, teenagers ... and they still need income. Lots of it too.<P>Just be aware and stay frosty Allison Jo, try and get over the hurt, live for the moment as much as you can.<P>I remember a few posts ago of yours ... you said "I Got It", remember that one? And you did have it too. Get it again, Allison, it isn't about you and the kids or the marriage ... it's about your H and something he's struggling thru. He's being a major a**hole as opposed to my H who is a major d*ckhead. LOL!<P>I need to sign off for a few. But I'll be on again this evening.<P>Can't wait for our get together, Hon!<P>Talk/type to you this evening.<P>Jo

Allison, I must have missed your post somewhere else. I know how you feel. I have been avoiding going to a lawyer. Let me know how it went with yours OK?<P>I agree, go on your own scedual, but I guess it is good to have as much knowledge as possible.<P>I would like to come and stay at your house from now until January. Thank God we will all have each other over the holidays.<BR>Lora<BR>

Hi guys,<P>I haven't been here for a while, but I recognise so many of your names. I would love to come to your weekend, but do Qantas fly to Arizona??? Can I get there in a day from downtown Brisvegas (more commonly known as Brisbane, Queensland, Australia) !!!!!!!!<P>My eldest daughter has her first day at school on Jan 29, so I would be on a very very tight schedule. How quickly do you make those drinks ???????<P>I am hoping to visit the states next year, and would love to catch up with and meet you all. Mighty impossible I know, unless I moved there......however, where there's a will there's a way.<P>I would dearly love a weekend with people who know exactly how I feel, what I have been through, and what I have yet to go through. The sense of peace that comes from being with others who understand cannot be valued. Not only would we get to meet, but I can just imagine the laughs. What great fun. If I win tattslotto between now and then, I'll be there with bells on.<P>Maybe I can send something to your house Allison, I don't know, an Aussie flag or something, and you can all have a drink (or 10) for me.<P>I'll have to think about that one.<P>take care, and you never know, well, I'll keep dreaming anyway.<P>Jo