Today is our 11 th anniversary. I ended up sending a card that just said happy annivesary and wrote a little note about things around the neighborhood, the cat, and that my mammogram was negative.<P>He still hasn't called. It hurts so much that he can just walk away and not even aknowlege I still exist. Sometimes I feel like I don't or shouldn't.<BR>Lora

Oh My God!!!! It's my 11th Anniversary too Lora!!!!!!!!!!!!<P>Well, it is in God's realm - maybe not in society's anymore.......<P>I was just sitting here trying to figure out what to refer to it as to my H...<P>Perhaps the anniversary of "I Love You BUT......"!!!!!!!<P>UGH!!!<P>Ooooh, I know......I'll let him define it!!!! Let him rack his brain (or what is left of it) for a change!!! <P>I know how it feels, Lora...believe me. Last year was our tenth and we had always planned a Disneyworld trip.....I ended up leaving him a voicemail saying Happy Anniversary and some memories of the Wedding day<P>He went with psycho to Florida around this time.....and I "knew it" without knowing it for fact. He confirmed after the D and apologized for hurting me so horribly!! He hadn't remembered our "plans" and would never had gone around this time if he had - it would have been toooooo nasty even for him, he said.<P>I hope you hear from him....but don't expect too. Way too much fear and guilt inside of him and he might not be able to overcome it enough to acknowledge the day to you.......<P>BIG HUGS......I am going to watch my Wedding video!!! Sound like torture? Not for me......that was the most wonderful day of my life and I smile when I watch it - for that is truly who H and I are!!! Those two "connected" people!!! ALWAYS!!!!!!<P>Have Faith, Let your Love lead your brain and heart and remember that there are reasons for everything.....<P>More BIG ANNIVERSARY HUGS,<P>Sheba<P><p>[This message has been edited by Sheba (edited September 30, 2000).]

Hi Lora,<P>Try to keep yourself busy Lora. I didn't hear from my H for 1-1/2 mos., and it was dreadful. I cried every single day and night the whole time! When I finally did, it was at the point when he had some time to miss me. Then the talking began and plan A from afar. <P>You're stronger than you think, believe that. <P>Blessings, MT <P>------------------<BR>True love cannot be found where it doesn't truly exist, <BR>nor can it be hidden where it truly is.

Dear Lora,<P>Happy Anniversary to you. I know that it is a hard day for you (we just had our 6th a couple of weeks ago). Like MT says, try to stay busy and don't get too discouraged if you don't hear from him. Do something nice for yourself, spoil yourself a little, go shopping, or out with friends.<P>I'll be thinking of you.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers,<BR>KristyAnn<P>One masculine need comes to mind which wives should not fail to heed. It reflects what men want most in their homes -- tranquility. Love for a Lifetime p.45

gosh Sheba, that amazing, we are aniversary twins.LOL Ya, last year wasn't that good either, I made him take me out to dinner and he didn't speak.... are any of you surprized about that from Mr silient?<P>MT,<BR>One and a half months!!!! Yikes.<P>Kristyann,<BR>Well, I went shopping and out to lunch with a friend and got all new stuff for the bathroom. When depressed, spend money.<P><BR>Thanks everyone for the support. I don't know what I would do without you all.<BR>Lora

Lora,<BR>I can feel the hurt and pain in your post.Keep your chin up.Praying for you.<BR> Beth

Good work, Lora! The card and note were a smart thing to do, IMHO. Friendly, informative, thoughtful, and a reminder of the old neighborhood may trigger his own happy memories of days with you.<P>Happy anniversary, I know it is painful but before the fog hit your H there was love and happiness for him too.<P>And happy for you about the mammogram.<P><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess

Hey Lora,<P>Mine is coming up in two weeks and I too, will probably send a nice card. He totally ignored my birthday in September, so I am not expecting anything from him.<P>I can really relate to the thought of him just walking away and not even acknowledging that you exist. My H is talking about moving out of state, and in Hawaii, that means a pretty far move away. He says Hawaii's "lost all it's charm." It scares me....even tho we aren't really communicating, just knowing he's within 30 miles of me still helps in some weird way. If he moves, I don't know what I'll do!<P>I just can't believe that he never wants me in his life...right now that's just too hard for me to believe. I just can't swallow it yet. And it chokes me up trying.<P>I hear your pain and feel exactly the same. I'll say a prayer for wisdom and strength for you, if you'll do the same for me.<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>

Belle,<BR>Thanks for the good thoughts. I survived, now have untill the holidays to have other days to stress over.<P>Mrs O,<BR>Well, I'm not sorry I sent the card. I guess i did it because it felt right and i really did not expect anything in return. I know what you mean about knowing they live nearby. I had to drive by and see where he was living so i would be able to picture him there.<BR>Of course, I will pray for your peace also.<BR>Lora

Incredible!<BR>I am yet another in the 11 year anniversary crowd. What's this stuff about the "seven year itch"? (come to think of it though, our problems did have their beginnings about four years ago. Hmmm...