Hello everyone!<BR>My husband left home to live with OW about 3 1/2 weeks ago. We've had several phone conversations and the most recent ones have ended on the note of him crying and saying that it was "really nice talking to you". Last Friday we met for the first time in 3 weeks and he told me that he was starting to reconsider his decision about living with the OW. That things there weren't like home and that he missed me, the dogs, and home. He also kept saying "I'm so sorry". I hugged him and told him "I know" and "It's OK". He said he would always love me and I told him the same and that it was forever. We both cried and hugged each other before we each went our separate ways. It sounds pretty encouraging, but is it real? Why hasn't he called me since then? I wish he would initiate contact more often, but maybe it is just too hard for him. He may be afraid of these emotional reactions. Any ideas anyone? Do you feel that we're on the right track?

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Dear AR:<P>You certainly handled that meeting well. Sounds like it won't be long before your H is back at home. <P>Don't worry about his not calling you. You know OW are usually pretty perceptive about waivering and if they detect any weakness in the hold they have over H, they will make special efforts to fortify the relationship.<BR>This will work for a short time, but it won't work forever. <P>He's waiver...and he will continue to move back and forth between you and OW until he can make the final decision to stay or leave...and it looks like he's already leaning towards home. <P>Like NSR says, what's needed now is lots of time and patience and now LB. You are now the safe, sane, comfortable choice. Remain so.<P>Faye