H and I are doing pretty well in recovery. However, several months ago he pointed out the OW sister at the large hospital where I work. I had never noticed this person before and now I see her all the time! He said she was around them some and that she is a nice person. She is deaf so he only talked to her through OW. I know it's irrational, but I constantly fight feelings of dislike for this person. I have avoided eye contact so I don't scowl at her. I imagine things she might think of me and get all worked up. I have convinced myself I will smile at her and be friendly if the opportunity arises. Isn't it funny how the mind goes through all of these calisthenics? I have gotten angry at people who knew about A at the time, but really it was just between him and me. I hate that just seeing this sister brings up old negative feelings. <BR>

JR61,<P>If you want to hear silly, I can come up with something. Although I have never met the OW I have a good idea what she looks like, my husband told me and then showed me a country singer who, apparently, is the spitting image of OW and now I cringe whenever I see a video by her or even hear her sing!! <P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole

OW was secretary. Anybody at his office, or just being at his office for that matter triggers me. I hate it.<P>cleo

OW worked at office. Anyone chinless, protruding mouth, dark, and stunned-looking.

H was introduced to OW#2 by a pro football friend of his. This guy plays for my hometown team, so needless to say, I'm no longer a fan! <P>Our ex-brother-in-law (H's sisters X) was a willing participant/helper w/affair #3. I know how ex treats my sis-in-law and our nephew... just bad news in general. When he brought decided to help H have this affair, I was so outdone. Disrespect sis and nephew, but don't disrespect me and my children! <P>He won't pay child support (nor see his son) and she can't afford to keep up the legal battle. (And no, H won't rat him out) As a single mom, sis-in-law often has financial problems and guess who she comes to, US. Although not related to affair, whenever she needs help, I can't help but think of him and what he is NOT doing yet he had plenty of time and money to PARTY w/H and OW! YUK!

xOW has the same name as the main character on a popular TV show. My triggers have gotten much better but this is one that still gets me every time. I can't watch the show and can't stand the sight of the actress (who seems to be everywhere these days!) I've never seen the OW but she was described to me by a friend as "extremely plain, with too short blond hair. Every time I see a girl who fits this description I feel grrrr.