Didn't know whether to post this here or on Divorced/Divorcing, but here goes.<P>What are some of the little things that your WS did/does that hurt you (maybe intentionally or unintentionally).<P>Some of the things my W did:<P>1. Stopped using her luggage with her married initials on it and even turned it upside down on the shelf in the closet where it is stored so the initials were out of sight.<P>2. Our last name is very long (12 letters). She used to write it out very eloquently when signing her name on checks, etc... but since D day just writes the first letter and then something that looks like the mark of ZORRO!<P>3. Wears her little ankle bracelet with the two hearts on it that OM gave her and tries to put her ankle where I can see it real easily.<P>4. Put all the jewelry I ever bought her in a separate little jewelry box and set it on top of a book shelf out of sight.<P>5. This one is the worst, and it really affected our 4 year old; day after D-day (also the same day she filed for Divorce), she took down all the pictures of the two of us as well as those that were the two of us PLUS our daughter. This just shows plain lack of any concern for our daughter and added to the pain she already had due to us parting.<P>I won't be visiting this sight for a couple of days. Hope you have some goodies!

I have a few ditties.<P>1. My H doesn't chime back the automatic "I love you" any more.<P>2. Won't look me straight in the eye.<P>3. Still will not talk to me about feelings or anything else, including OW.<P>4. Doesn't thank me for any of the things I do specially for him--and he knows--like keeping the house spotless(like I just learned he likes it.)<P>5.When he does answer some questions about anything having to do with us, it is shot back with venom.<P>6. He has no compassion for me or the way i am feeling.<P>7. He won't wear cologne now that I have gotten rid of the one he wore for her.<P>8. When I see him in public(chance meeting) he practically ignores me in front of his friends(they don't know.) It is embarrassing.

<BR>The current hot one for me:<P>She refers to me by name when she speaks of me to the kids instead of referring to me as "Dad". My Dad did the same thing to my Mom just before my parents divorced.<P>Slightly Sane<BR>

Well, I can add a couple....<P>1. Told me she found out how good sex can be.<P>2. Told me that I am only a nice guy so people will owe me something.<P>3. Told me that she may do this again in 6 months<BR><p>[This message has been edited by had12many (edited October 07, 2000).]