We went to Leavenworth, WA this past weekend (a charming little resort town on the east side of the mountains). I was out there for a Mary Kay conference, but after the whole Dallas fiasco, and under Jennifer's advice, I took my H with me on this business trip. [Go Mariners!] <P>After nearly falling asleep in my first class [Go Mariners!], my H and I opted to paint the town red for the rest of the night. We found a nice suite in town to stay in, and we went to a little sportsbar to have dinner and a couple of drinks. [Sodo Mojo!] <P>Well, my H seemed to be having about as much fun as the President at Confession, so I asked him what was wrong. I asked him why he didn't seem to have a good time with me when we went out anymore (especially when he was MORE than willing to stay up and go out with Jabba the Slut - no, y'all, I didn't say that! ) He says that I always "do this" - I always complain when we go out. [Go Mariners!] I didn't LB, I took his hand and said, "No, honey, I just want us to be able to laugh together and have fun again." [Who let the dogs out?!] We then went on to have one of the deepest conversations that we've ever had in our relationship. We both learned new things about each other - it was real communication! <P>So all in all, [Lou's Crew] we had a great weekend together. It was worth ditching the last few days of my conference to be with my H the way that I was [A Rod!]. It was a beautiful, albeit LONG drive there and back, but the fact that I had my husband back, even if it was just for the weekend, made it all worthwhile. Now reality is setting back in, but I'm hopeful for our future. [Go Mariners!]

Sounds like a lot of positives for the both of you, especially the conversation part.<P>And you're right on with the subliminal messages, especially when he asked why you always complain when the two of you are out.<P>It's taken me alot of time to undersatnd, not saying that I am the best at it, that often when we're together I act differently than when we were dating. I'm sure that when the two of you were first together, instead of complaining you told him what a wonderful time you had when together, probably what Jabba does now. From what I've gathered, the constant "How come's?" and "Whys?" don't do a very good job at creating romance.<P>Good luck to you, it sounds as if you may be off on the right foot!<P>------------------<BR>I am in this situation for a very good reason, it just took time to get over my own self-pity and understand why.