Last time I spoke with her was 2 August.<P>Last time she called was 4 Sep. She spoke with the youngest for about 3 minutes (we were on the way to church.) She said she would call back the next night. HAH!<P>Yesterday I was off work & the girls were at friends houses. The phone rings, I say, "helo" and hear, "click" on the other end. Look at the caller ID and it's from a hotel in the state she has been in. I just chuckled to myself. I'm still waiting to talk with her so I can try to set up a meeting between us sometime soon.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Chris. Her cowardice is incredible. What is she afraid of? How long is this going to go on for you? When can you begin a life for yourself? What kind of a meeting are you hoping for? How are the kids doing?<P>I have read your posts over the past year and a half with such concern for you. I rarely reply but today I feel compelled to ask some of these questions. I am just so sorry that you continue to wait and wait with no communication. You have been so patient and such an incredible father to the kids and yet, I worry about you...and what this is doing to you. I know by now some of the sting is gone but you are left with the unknown and the anxiety of wondering what is next...if anything.<P>I would love to see something wonderful happen to you.<P>Catnip =^^=

Hey Catnip,<P>I know nothing! Nothing!(as Sgt Schultz would say)<P>This will (probably) go on 'till I file for divorce (sometime in January?)<BR>My life is already going on sans the other sex/female thingy.<P>Steve H suggested I try to set up a face to face in Sep/Oct so we can discuss everything & I can try to at assess (at least a bit) where she is with all this. I know nothing of their relationship. Could be jittery & she's just waiting for me or they could be engaged & just waiting for me. I have no idea.<P>The girls are doing very well. Outwardly they show no signs of anything by her being gone or not calling. Her birthday is next month. I asked them both to think about it & decide if they wanted to send a card/present or what. The oldest said a card & the youngest waited a few days to decide on a card. I told them that's fine.<P>As far as the sting being gone, it is.<P>The MB principles really do work. I don't love her & I don't know if I would take her back now. However, I know they work well up to this point so I will wait the requisite 2 years & give the rest of the MB principles to work. The affair to end, her to want to work it out, ME to want to work it out & us to fall in love again.<P>Don't know if it will go this way, but I'm gonna find out.<P>Don't worry about me. Again I am fine. I know where I've been and where I'm headed. Sky's blue, wind is light and it's clear sailing ahead!!!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

You're amazing, Chris. What a catch you will be. <P>You're in my prayers and as always, you have my utmost respect.<P>I have been worried about you and the kids. Funny, isn't it, how we care so much what happens to each other. Such a strange phenomemen.<P>Thanks for the update...I feel better. <P>Catnip =^^=

Chris,<P>I too have been wondering how you and the kids have been. I worry about you.<P>I'm so glad Catnip asked ... because if she didn't, I was.<P>Even tho it sounds like you've lost all your love for your W ... if she was to come back to you, could you and would you be able to forgive and recover the marriage?<P>Just wondering...<P>Be well Chris, I admire you and your strength of resolve.<P>God Bless,<BR>Jo

(((((hugs)))))<BR>Nice to hear the girls are doing good!<BR>I am so sorry she is still not ready to talk to you. Maybe she feels she has to really look/hear what she has done? Hearing your voice is just too painful to her? I have no idea why she acts this way-beyond my ability to understand, just throwing out some thoughts.<BR>cl