Ok guys -<P>I'm putting a smiley-face here although right now my mind is in a number of different places. But, I finally decided that I had better go to counseling. After all, that's how I found this place, looking for some way to mend the seams on my torn marriage. Did it work - yes and no. You guys are great, but I know I needed a little more.<P>Today was the first session, so it's not like I suddenly see the light, but I'm now thinking about what to do next, what will I get out of the next session.<P>My H doesn't or rather expressed his apprehension about going because he's convinced the therapist will encourage me to leave him (must be a guy thing). Which isn't what I want, besides don't they (therapists) help you decide the best way to help you get what you want out of life and solve those problems? <P>Anyway - I'm looking forward to next week and maybe for once and for all I can get some piece of my life back.<P>Vee

Congratulations Vee,<P>It is good to hear that you moving things in a positive direction. Hope it works out and that your H can see the benefit.<P>God Bless,<P>JL

JL -<P>Thanks! It's been a long bumpy ride since I first started posting. I'm crying right now (I do that a lot these days) and waiting for my H to come home so I can tell him about my session.<P>I really hope he'll come with me eventually, only time will tell.<P>Keep me in your prayers!<P>Vee

Don't worry about your husband joining you right now Vee, you continue to go for yourself.<P>It's a big step, isn't it? I started three weeks ago and was lucky enough to find one that seems to get it. <P>Just take it slowly, take notes if you can, or tape the sessions. I forget most of what was said right away.<P>Congrats on the good work on Vee!<P>allison

Hey Vee, counseling sounds great. My H and I hem and haw (?) about going to counseling or not. Right now we're at the "let's get through this together" stage and have postponed third party intervention (oh, other than the man upstairs ). But, at some point, we may need that, too, a little extra help - sometimes - is all we need to get through the rough spots. Hang in there!

Az & SKM -<P>Thanks guys! <P>Az - how's it going for you right now? Is it making things easier to deal with? <P>SKM - We tried that and it didn't work. But, I think that it's mostly a communication problem. I wonder if my H is hiding out (coming home late, hanging out with friends) because he's not really ready to deal with this yet? He's expressed sorrow that he couldn't make me happy (that's what I've been saying, I'm unhappy, etc.) so maybe he feels like he's failed? So, he's always trying to make me go out with my friends. I wonder if that's because he thinks it'll give me a lift. Actually, when I'm down, I really don't want to be around other people.<P>Anyway - thanks for listening!<P>Vee