I have been debating on whether or not to tell the OW's spouse about his wifes affair with my H. OW's H is away at see in the military at the moment. I have been arguing with myself over this matter for some time. My reasoning to tell him is that since he is not here with his wife, she is free to do anything she wants. i.e. her husband isn't here to keep an eye on her to keep her away from my H. <P>My H is unemployed at the moment. He had to quit since the OW was his employee. I call to check up on my H at home while i am at work. But there is nothing stopping her from trying to contact my H. <P>Should i seek other measures to ensure that no contact is made between the OW and my H and not tell OW's souse? i.e. logging his mileage, recording all calls to and from our house?<P>I am very worried that she will try to contact him because my husband ended it with her on the phone at our house one night. Then he gave his resignation to work the next day. She may have the urge to call him and ask him "why" since he ended it abruptly and unexpectantly with little and no explanation as to why. Also, i'm pretty sure that she has a strong urge to contact him in hopes to spark things up between them since she doesn't have much going for her in her life right now. i.e. lousy paying job, husband is away so she is very lonely, raising a son from a previous boyfriend etc. This is just a guess on my part, but i'm trying to be proactiv here and trying to put myself in her shoes. I'm sure my H looks like filet mignon right now and her life probably feels like ground chuck to her. Upgrading seems like the natural thing for her to do.<P>What measure have some of you taken to ensure distance between the OP and your spouse? What's ethical, what has worked? Mind you, i plan to tell my H about any phone tappings, i don't plan to do anything withoug letting him know. <P>Ideas please<P>