I found my wifes E-mail password on a scrap of paper in her pants when I was doing laundry a few weeks ago, and I figured that was her way of letting me "peek" into her mail to see that she was not longer contacting the OM.......<P>Well, I found out that she has been E-mailing him through a third party in ohio, and that he was going to call her today (at her request) <P>I went home and confronted her about this, and she said that she had better just leave, that her heart was torn.<P>this morning she is again undecided, she does not want to leave because of the kids, but I don't know if she is able to break off all contact, I told her that I can't share my wife with another man, she can't have her cake and eat it too.<P>So I still don't know what she is going to do.......all I know is that I am dying.<P>what do I do now??????????<P>Mike

Just wanted to let you know I feel for you. Read lots of posts on this board, might give you some insight into what others have done in similar situation. This board is very good for that believe me.<P>Counseling out of the question or not? Sounds like she is on the fence. Good luck.