My W and I have benn seperated now for three weeks, yesterday we were together for about two hours. During this time she let me touch, caress, hug and even kiss her onthe cheek, I would like to know if another women could tell if they would allow this to happen if it was truely over, or is it just the nice thing to do?

Peace - My wife (WS) and I are also separated (two months) and I always initiate a hug (and sometimes a kiss on the cheek)when we part - part of Plan A to show affection. But there's no other touching, but there was little affection before the A also. I don't place a lot of significance on the hugs - other than she's not mad at me at the moment. If I didn't hug her, I'm sure she wouldn't initiate it. So for us, it's natural for me and she accepts it probably just because she knows I still love her and she doesn't want to deny me this. If she initiated the affection, I'd consider that a good sign.<P>WAT<p>[This message has been edited by worthatry (edited October 25, 2000).]

Hi Peace (nice name ... we could all use a little tranquility),<P>After my H left he contacted me ALOT, he wanted to meet up and talk .... we had coffee and after 2 weeks of not seeing each other he grabbed me and hugged me tight and made a BIG sigh, like I was a long lost found puppy. He kissed me and held my hand and when we were in the coffee shop the clerk made a comment about how in love we were ..... I almost choked on my coffee.<P>My H continued to tell me how he loved me and missed me, how he was lost and needed me ... but now ... 2 mos later he is treating me like a stranger, or better yet an enemy, and he's wanting to end our marriage. There has been no LBing on my part whatsoever. That's what happened aft 2 mos of Plan B and no contact. OW has a huge influence on him and now he is completely within her control. <P><BR>I miss him and love him.<P>Jo

I think that your wife is torn. I would be. To me it says that there are other reasons that let to the betrayal. (I am not familiar with your story). It's real nice to let your guard down for a moment and have things feel like they once did. I would say to you though BEWARE, because if it were me, it would be a fleeting feeling and I would probably revert back. But it's a start, don't be too surprised if she acts like it never happended though.