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I have to type quick, but I wanted to let you guys know that my H called tonight (haven't talked to him since Sat. the 14th of Oct. He called wrote a sweet letter, wants counseling, I hope it is a for sure thing! Please pray for us I will keep you updated! Praise God!
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Thanking God and doing a happy dance here !<P>I will be praying !!<P>------------------<BR>Deb<P>Hepatitis C, Please educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In" TARGET=_blank>http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In</A> memory of a very dear friend <A HREF="http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp" TARGET=_blank>http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp</A>
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Deb:<P>Thanks for your prayers! H came over last night and it was a nice time. He is sincere about his desire to make this marriage work, I have been counseling with Jennifer and he talked to her once, he says he wants to go to her and that she is on the right track. I am a little leary but extremely hopeful!!! In his letter he apologised for hurting me and asked for forgiveness. WOW, he also agreed that we should not take this too fast that we need to make sure we beging the fixing process before we do anything else I am so excited. He is supposed to be calling Jennifer today to set up a counseling time. All I can say is Praise God!<P>Kristin
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Kristin,<P>How wonderful ! I am glad that y'all are doing this slowly. My h left me for ow # 1 (wildebeast) and when we got back together we just did it, no counseling, nothing. I regret that, he did cheat again, but we got help the last time. <P>Remember there maybe sets backs, but with enough time and paitence this can work. Just be sure to keep it slow. Let us know how you are.<P>Deb
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Deb:<P>Thanks for your prayers, i too am excited that we will be going slow, don't think I can do it again. We separated last year D-Day and when he decided I was who he wanted we just jumped right back to where we were. Not a good idea for us! Obviously because we ended up right back here. <P>I just received a beautiful flower arrangement here at work from H. WOW, I have only gotten flowers from him 3 times in 6 years (including these) I made sure he knew how much I enjoyed them! Tonight I am taking my youngest step daughter out to lunch then I will go and see him. <P>I am scared, but also very excited. I pray that I can keep my head on straight and make sure that he follows thru with what he says he will do though. I just keep saying WOW, I was really thinking it was over.
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KAW,<P>Just be careful. I am a very suspicious woman (gee, I wonder why) and I have been reading on the divorced, divorcing forum. It seems some men (and women too I'm sure) will come back and move in the house so the betrayed spouse can't file for adultery, it seems if you forgive them for it once then they can say you condoned them doing it. That stinks, but so does much of what many WS's do to cover their rear ends. <P>I hope that isn't what is happening with you. Like I said I have a nasty sneaky mind now days.<P>Deb <P>Keep taking your time and make sure he is actually doing the counseling.
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Deb:<P>I agree with you, I need to be very careful. H did set up a counseling session with Jennifer and he gave her lots of stuff to read and do. He sounds like he really wants to do it which is good. We have a couple counseling date set for WEd. the 8th of Nov. We'll see how that goes. <P>When you said something about filing for Adultery, are there some states that you can file something for adultery? In the state I am in Divorces are always No Fault. Which sucks in the adultery case I believe. <P>Let me know
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KAW,<P>While mot states have No Fault , it is not a rule, many will still allow you to file with grounds. I know in Texas, if your spouse files for a no-fault you can still file for adultery if it is going on. Check this site<BR> <A HREF="http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/states.shtml" TARGET=_blank>http://www.divorcesource.com/info/divorcelaws/states.shtml</A> <P>It may have some answers for for you.<P>Deb
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