ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years recently while i was pregnant with our second child i found out he was cheating through his brother he denied it and so did she after having our child we had and in depth conversation about our relationship he then informed me that he did have some sort of relationship with her but nothing extreme but he would no longer see her because he wanted his family.. a few days later i come to find him leaving her house so i go there to confront her she finally admits to everything while there i learn everything including that they had been together for over 3 years he also calls on my cell wondering why im not at home. he then tells her through the phone with me standing next to her he no longer wants to see her and so on she cries she knew about me but i guess denied it like i was she then gives me a ring he had given her which is exactly like mine i would have just told him to hit the road except for the fact we have 2 kids we are only 22 and 24 which makes things all the more harder and i dont want my family to fall apart this has been a long road it is now 2 months later and things have improved dramatically but i still find myself thinking and crying about the past i am trying to look to the future but am not sure how to do it

Welcome Azsadgirl:<P>I sorry that you are having to deal with this at such a young age....this should be the golden time in your life...new love...young babies...but sometimes it's hard on young people when they're not quite ready for the responsibility and commitment.<P>Don't expect to just get over the pain this A has caused you in 2 months or 4 month or even a year...the time it takes you will be the necessary time for you...just be patient with yourself and with him. He made a mistake and hopefully he will do his best to rectify that...but it will take consistent efforts on his part to restore the lost trust. <P>If you haven't availed yourself of all the material there is on this site to work on building or rebuilding a good relationship, please do so. Maybe with MB help there will never be another time like the last and in time you will see the "golden years" again.<P>Please let us know how you are doing.<P>Angels and Prayers ~ Faye

azsadgirl, yes, we will help in any way we can. There is a lot to be learned and some hard work ahead but you can get through this.<P>First thing to work on is yourself. Be sure your eating right; I know it's hard right now but you need to keep your strength up. Exercise is also important. The physical exertion has a way of leveling off your moods as well as keeping you healthy. Read the articals on this site and start arming yourself for the fight for your family. Another good book is "Surviving an Afair."<P>Second is counseling. If you can't afford it, at the very least but a good book and follow the guide TOGETHER. When both of you are working on the marriage it is so much easier to get things accomplished.<P>Take care of your self, don't let this define who you are, and come back anytime you want to talk, cry, scream or just to let us know what's happening.<P>Joe