Hi Everyone,<P>Well, my H was supposed to call me this week, didn't happen.<P>I've always been the kind of person that never wanted to be afraid of anything ... wanted to try and conquer all my fears.<P>But here I am afraid to open my own mailbox in fears that there will be some large official looking envelope in there .... D papers! I even went as far as asking my neighbor, who was talking w/me last night next to the mail box, to look in and tell me if anything official looking was in there before I reached in. (he knows the situation)<P>This is ridiculous, I know, but it is so scary to me.<P>Can any State of Washingtonian's out there tell me HOW D papers are served, what the guidelines are ... i.e., do they have to serve you in person, certified mail, regular mail .... WHAT????<P><BR>Thanks for helping ...<P>God Bless.<P>Love,<BR>Jo<P>------------------<BR>Josie_Res@Hotmail.com<P>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited October 28, 2000).]

I don't know specifically Washington state, but generally you have to;<P>1 Be served. A licensed process server has to identify you and give you the paperwork personally.<P>2 You sign a waiver of service, meaning the papers are given to you in some way and you sign a paper saying you waive the requirement of service & you have received the papers.<P>3 Advertisement of 30-45 days in the legal section of the paper at your last known address.<P>If it does not meet any of these three, then he most likely had the papers drawn up & shoved them in you mailbox.<P>Read 'em over and consult with a lawyer, but DO NOT respond to them in any way until you do. Do not let him (your H) know you received them until you consult with a lawyer.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Thanks Chris!<P>Okay ... next question. I know in the State of WA it's a no-fault D State, but am I required to sign the D papers themselves. Meaning, I contest the D and do not/will not sign them, so can/does the D go thru anyhoo?<P>Raed your update ... I'm sorry you you still haven't heard back from W. She really is "out there, isn't she?<P>Jo

Hey Jo,<P>We are way too much alike. I get almost an anxiety attack each time I go to the mailbox. It's the hardest part of my days sometimes. I am afraid of anything he may send me, even copies of our investments and savings (which I requested two weeks ago and haven't seen yet)<P>So, I'll make you a deal...I'll be brave and go if you will. (Gulp).<P>Hope you're doing all the good stuff for yourself this weekend that you can think of. I had a great morning shopping with my kids and doing haircuts and stuff. Daughter is going to Homecoming tonight and is soaking in the tub as I type...it's just so cute. She has a real date, and boy...what a hunk!<P>I'll probably be on tonight if you're around and don't have a hot date or anything. <P>Take care...and go check your mail.<P>allison jo (wife of schmuck)

I am scared just to check my e-mail, and when I get one from him, I let it sit a day or so before I open it. I just don't want to hear it.<P>I am sorry, Jo. I was and am still praying for you--you deserve so much better.

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