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Sorry to post it but I am through. Got no one else to tell so I'm spilling it here. L_I_L is in TX with her OM, doesn't think I know. Odd thing is, I just don't care anymore. Enough is enough. I do not know how y'all put up with this crap so long. We have no children to hurt, and she is making it evident that OM is THE Man! I just want to get the heck away from this woman. I do not even know her any more.<P>Thanks for all the past support that everyone gave us. I will remember you all and pop in from time to time. I got to go, MY life is waiting.<P>See Ya!<P>Joel (SS4N)
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Joel,<P>I'm very very sorry. I thought she promised she woudn't see him there.. how did you find out? Gosh, I feel I'm looking at myself in april.. My H told me he wouldn't see OW(when he was in the same state OW lived) and when he came back he still said so, then I found a bus ticket to her town.<P>I think even if your W comes here and ask for help she's still in a fog and she doesn't want to hurt you that's why she lies.(and she(and my H) doesn't think about not doing it instead of doing it and lying about it!)<P>I'm so sorry, but think well about D when you calm yourself down. Don't do it from your anger.<P>I'm so sorry about this...<BR>Please take care of yourself,<P>Meg<P>
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Dear Joel:<P>Take care of yourself.<P>Hold your head high.<P>Attempt to be kind to each other as you move forward.<P>Peace, ~Marie<P>------------------<BR>"If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars." ~unknown
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Joel,<P>I am sorry it has come to this, but you have done all you can do. Healing a marriage isn't just about time, it is about effort. You have given the effort and the time,perhaps not as much as some of the record setters here, but you have done all you can do.<P>It is too bad that LIL has failed to see who she is losing. I have a strong suspicion the OM will only bring her grief, but that will be her loss.<P>Post every now and then to let us know how you are doing.<P>God Bless,<P>JL
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Small Steps<P>I'm really sorry. . .I thought LIL would get through this with you, not without you. I really admire your perserverance, but it really does take two to tango. I really, kind of feel sorry for her, she will be losing one of the good guys. Take care of yourself. . .Sometimes, you hope that things will work out, sometimes you just hope that things will get better, and sometimes you just hope that you can get through this. I know that you will get through this, be proud of the effort you put into this - I know it wasn't and still isn't easy. You're in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself and let us know how you are doing.<P>Keep your head up. I will also pray that LIL treats you - if not now, someday - with the dignity and respect you deserve.
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