I have just a couple of thoughts to share, and they are just my opinion. First, I wouldn't beat yourself up over telling her parents. While it isn't the nicest thing, I also think you we're in a very stressful, unfair, and difficult situation. You did what you felt was right at the time, and I personally don't think you can be faulted for that. I think it also depends on how close you are to them. I'm very close, and haven't hid everything from my in-laws, nor am I going to ignore them or alter my relationship with them just because my wife decided to have an affair. I may be in the minority here, but I might have done the same thing knowing what they were saying about me. My MIL knows some details, which she had essentially figured out, but I did confirm it. And I don't feel bad about it. I regret that anyone has to know, but I'm not the one running around lying and having an affair. I'm probably going to hear it from someone after saying that, but that is how I feel.<P>Second, regarding telling her, like Jim said, I'm not sure what phase you are in. Did you go through a true recovery process, and talk alot, or have things drifted and been somewhat swept under the carpet. This is the kind of thing you would discuss during honest, true confessions about the affair period. I wouldn't just bring it up out of the blue. I'd just be careful when it is talked about, because she will be upset, no doubt.<P>However, I'm not experienced at this phase of things, and if my wife ever snaps out of the fog, and wants to work on our marriage, we'll have some things to discuss, some of which will be things that I'll want to tell her.