I went up to see my in laws this weekend. They are good for my ego. My MIL told me she told H that I was invited for The holidays and if he din't like it or was going to be difficult he could not come. SIL said they all know I was good for him, helped him reach some goals and allowed him to spend money on his toys. She thinks he is spoiled and selfish and feels the world owes him something. And that the most foolish thing he ever did was to leave me. <P>I found out he went to Vegas with a "friend"<BR>What is it with cheaters and Vegas anyway? Must like the idea of sin city. LOL He is also still saying that it is a trail seperation.<P>But I think forced plan B is working for me too. I think I can go for the holidays and know they want me there and tough what he thinks. It really is his problem. I am not sure I want him back. I miss alot about our relationship, but there is some things I dont miss, and he would have to do alot of work to change, and I dont think he has much motivation. Then I went shopping and bought some great clothes to wear for thanksgiving. I hope I can go and be strong and confident and look my best and hold my head up. Because I didn't do anything wrong, and I am OK.<BR>Lora

You go girl!

Lora,<P>Your post made me smile! You ARE a strong woman!! I'm happy to know your in-laws understand how you are and what your H's doing is wrong.<P>Since my H moved out I'm going nuts for clothes !! I never cared that much about clothes.. Now look at me.. The amount of clothes I bought in the last 6 months is more than the amout of clothes I bought in 10 yrs!! So when I went to my BIL's he and his wife and their daughter all said I was wearing a very nice coat.. they said that all in different occasions and it was funny.<BR>SIL told me I looked great and I was happy to hear that.. We both deserve to treat ourselves well, that's for sure. AND you are doing great!!! <P>Meg

TM,<BR>Thanks for the encouragement!<P>Meg,<BR>I didnt used to buy many clothes either. New clothes along with the infidelity weight loss plan should have me looking better! I hope I get some restraint back though... can't afford to spend that much every weekend. But it was just what I needed this weekend.<P>Wow, that must have been some coat!!! LOL<BR>Lora<P>

Lora,<P>LOL LOL LOL LOL<P>I'm glad to know you are doing well and looking great(have you posted your pic on the board?? I haven't gotten invite yet so I haven't seen anyone.. and can't wait to see people from BB!).<P>I'm going to bed... <P>Take care!<P>Meg

I'm so bummed the weight I lost came back on--I think part of it is cooking (er & eating ) again.<P>Lora--in the midst of our separations I went to Guard's family reunion weekend, which he coordinated. I was very helpful. His family knew we had *troubles* but not the what and several of his aunts cornered me with hints of being a *good* wife. Geez, I just started sobbing--I'd been pretty tense. But I heard more family secrets...genetic predispositions?...than I'd ever guessed at.<P>Sometimes family gatherings put things all into perspective.<P>I'm glad his family is supporting you.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger."<BR>(Proverbs 15:1).