"She has had two very troubled marriages, her first husband had flashbacks from Nam and put a gun in his mouth and her second H is an alcoholic and won't go out with her and have fun"...I said good, if she marries you she'll have an egotistical, alcoholic third husband.

Gregg,<P>Thanks. I know my H is sick.. I always think he's "temporaly insane".<P>I'm doing alright and he's miserable and depressed.. that shows who had problems when we were living together. He seems starting to realize that. I just wanted to write down these things here to see how much crazy things he has said. And right now I'm having fun reading them again..<P>True, these are very hurtful things to say, but it's too hurtful, now it's funny. You are so right, right minded people won't even think about these kind of things! <P>Anyway, thanks for your prayers. I really appreciate it... I don't know your story but hope you are doing well .<P>Meg

My turn - <P>"I still love you as a friend"<P>"Before we work on our marriage, I need time to heal from the trauma"<BR>"What trauma?"<BR>"Our problems!"<P>"I do consider your feelings."<P>"I feel like I've been betrayed."<P>"Everyone needs to take responsibility for their actions." (spoken to our son after he had a problem in school)<P>....and my favorite:<P>"I can't stand all these lies!!!"<P>WAT

After disclosing the affair in the first place my adorable H decided to unadmit it.<P>I didn't sleep with her I just wanted to so in the bible that's just as bad, that's why I told you I had an affair...yeah, right, more like, I just discovered how much money this is gonna cost me!<P>You don't understand me.<P>SHE understands me....yeah, your fake WORK persona.<P>I'm not in love with you....never noticed before, like last night when you were f.......my brains out!<P>You don't need to get a lawyer, I'll take care of you.......I don't F...... think so!<P>To name a few of the classics. It's been 7 years - and still this is so fresh!<P>

It's not about sex! <P>She is th only person who is there for me.<P>You never showed you loved me.<P>

(when I tried to convince him to work things out together)"I feel like I'm missing a great oppotunity"<P>"She doesn't mind me sleeping with you, she cares(when we have) more emotional stuff"<P>"I tell her I still love you"(gosh, what is she thinking?)<P>"(OW is bisexual), now I'm always worried either she goes out with male friend or female friend"<P>"you are always my #1"<P>"I shouldn't be telling you this, but I really wanted to come home.. I can't tell this to her!"<P>"small things about OW started to get on my nurves.."(then later I found out he went to see her) then "I wanted you to wait for me that's why I said that"<P>My point: My H is very very sick......<BR>

(when I found out H and OW spent Valentine's day at her place)"I don't believe in Valentine's Day, besides she was busy working for 10 hours"(is it the point?)<P>(when I found out OW is coming over to MY town for thanksgiving--after I told him it's very disrespectful)"I felt that too.. I will tell her not to come" but next day they are going to meet in Ottawa!<P>Geez!

This is almost comical, but here goes: "I am trying to recover my feelings for you, but I feel sad and hopeless. Whenever I talk to the OM, I feel better". Why not talk to me instead?...I guess she doesn't see the absurdity of her actions.<P>AGG

Pretty good! Is there a school that they go to to learn this stuff?<P>My faves are:<P>During EMR: "She (OW) is a great person, and I care about her as a friend. Don't take out your anger on her."<P>Post EMR, after OW tattled to me: "She's disloyal, and she betrayed me. She's equally to blame in all of this."<P>Oh, whatever! Fickle, thy name is married man having an EMR. Their perceptions change with the direction of the wind.<P>belld

Today my H came over so I asked him if he called Ow and asked her not to come here for thanksgiving. He said,<P>"because we talked till 1:00 am yesterday and she was leving early by bus this morning so I coudln't."<P>I can't go through more hurt anymore. If he wanted her to come why can'T he say so? Instead, he pretended he agreed with me and even said that stuff I said made sense so he was gonna call her to tell not to come. <P>When I got upset he also said: "well, she has been planning this trip for a long time so I couldn'T just say no to her"<P>thank you very much! I totally crashed down so I punched him.. for all of the hurt he caused in the past he was lucky he got only a couple of them. in the past he said when I get violent it meant over. So I told him that what he said in the past, and so this means it's over.<P>I don't feel very well now.. because I threw the last card I had and I knew he wasn't any good for me still it hurts. I don't think he ever want to see me again, and right now I'm so messed up so I can't think of anything.<P>Meg<BR><p>[This message has been edited by MF (edited November 22, 2000).]

Venting time again!<P>(he never wore a wedding ring, because he said that it would bother him for playing)"I would wear a ring next time(when we get married--but WE HAVEN'T GOTTEN DIVORCED YET)"<P>"when we get divorced let's have a divorce party"<P>(after me telling him that I was tired of being lied)"I'm tired of you thinking I'm lying"<P>I hope this is my last post on this thread.. by remembering these things it stops me from moving on my life or focusing on myself..(but I don't know what happens )<P>Meg

my personal favorite....... <BR>" cant i remain friends with her?"

dammit wrong thread sorry MF

I have to say this is a funny post!! First time I've laughed about the affair and how dumb they can sound!<P>My favorite from my WS:<P> - When she told me how how depressed she got when football season was over, I just fell for her!<P>Others:<P> - I care about you a lot, but more like a friend.<BR> - I never had those feelings of romantic love that I had for her with you.<BR> - We used condoms every time (only to find out it was only to catch the cum and not for safe sex...unprotected prior to the big moment!)<BR> - When I found condoms in my nightstand a week after d-day and asked why he put them there, he said "I thought we might need them some day" (Like sex with him was even on my list or that I wanted to use condoms that he had bought for her!!) What a jerk. I flushed them.<BR> - She has a beautiful voice, and oh, what a smile.<BR>

Meg, <P>What happens next is for you only...<P>And you stop wasting your life on the academy award winner for Jerk of the Year!<P>You go, Girl!<P>Inside joke: And maybe, like Julia Roberts (F/G), you'll have that space in your life open for your "Benjamin Bratt". Who knows?!<P>Go onto better things now.<P>Aloha,<P>L

Leaninglife,<P>I'm glad this post brought you some laughs. We all need to laugh at things at the end, huh? I don't know your story, but hope you are doing fine. I think since you know how to laugh I'm not worried too much .<P>Leilana!<P>I posted this web addy on in recovery section, so my posts here are all old. Yes I was wasting my time writing these things last year, but I needed it . And now these posts make some people laugh so it's good I think !<BR>I'm writing you an e-mail tonight <BR>ok, time for more important stuff than posting about my stbx.. like CLEANING )<P>Hugs,<P>Meg

My bad! So confused! Did not realize the dates were old! My bad!<P>Glad you're doing ok. Will eagerly look forward to your email.<P>Aloha,<P>L