An ironically, sadly funny situation happened. Met my wife (she moved out this past weekend as you probably know) and the kids for lunch today. She was quite quiet, kind of emotionless. Maybe just tired, but most likely more than that. That in itself raises a question for me. Is is because of her feelings for the whole situation, A, moving, crappy situation, etc? I suppose one can't tell. Sometimes I feel like "oh no, we're together and I want to make the most of it, but she is so emotionless (which is not her) that it is hard to find anything to talk about." So I babble about whatever, mostly the kids. Anyone else experience this when they see their separated (or even not separated) spouse? You desperately want as fun an outing as possible, but everything weighing on it makes it rather subdued. She is also a little abrasive or condescending, hard to label it. I just try and be happy and look like the world is a happy place.<P>So we leave, and on our way out we run into our old neighbor, who works with OM, and who doesn't know for sure what is going on, but was told by someone that we were separated and she was "seeing" OM. His wife is really curious about it all. This guy had approached OM awhile back and asked if she was his "girlfriend", and OM said no. OM has always wanted to hide it. I was happy about his inquiry with OM because it was a little exposure of the secret. No doubt this latest event threw our old neighbor for a loop, because there we were as a family. OM will get a call today. The sadly ironic part of it is that my wife and I both started laughing after we went through the door, and agreed that this was a funny situation, because it will result in several calls probably. I said it was a funny element to a sad story. Then we see her boss walking down the street, and he was trying to get a hold of her today. She wasn't answering the phone, and told him she left it home. He says, "no, because I just spoke with [other employee] and he talked to you on your cell not long ago". She got caught in one of many lie. If my wife was reading this she'd know it was from me for sure!<P>Anyway, what do you make of her quietness? Could be OM problems, could be sad and lonely, could be anything I guess.<P>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited November 09, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited November 09, 2000).]

Rick - could be anything. I think you fall into the same trap I do by trying to analyze everything too much. We're going to drive ourselves nuts doing this. It's like our own addiction. For proof, see my post in a few minutes for SKM.<P>WAT

I agree! Try not to figure her out so much. At this point it really can't be done. You are wasting your energy and believe me, you will need it for other things! Maybe think more along the lines of "Oh well, who knows what's going on in her brain! I'm sure she'll figure it all out one day." Note: SHE will figure it out. BTW: I think I'm one of those "Babblers" too and that's one thing I've decided to work on for myself. Somehow it doesn't make me feel like I look very appealing when I do this. It's so obvious that I'm nervous and trying to cover it up that I'm sure he can see it too.<BR>AR<BR>

Rick37, Sorry to say H is leaving this weekend. We haven`t talked to Steve he is just leaving to think. H and OW are in contact again. I guess the break up only lasted about 3 weeks. I`m just sick over all of this. I to am a babbler, I try to hard to say the right things that I end up saying alot of nothing. I will be looking forward to my H mood after the move. Although I told him I will not call that he can call me. How are the kids handling all of this I am worried how my son will be. we are going to tell him tomorrow after school.

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by ilovehim:<BR><B>Rick37, Sorry to say H is leaving this weekend. We haven`t talked to Steve he is just leaving to think. H and OW are in contact again. I guess the break up only lasted about 3 weeks. I`m just sick over all of this. I to am a babbler, I try to hard to say the right things that I end up saying alot of nothing. I will be looking forward to my H mood after the move. Although I told him I will not call that he can call me. How are the kids handling all of this I am worried how my son will be. we are going to tell him tomorrow after school.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

In my case, the om left just before Christmas. I found out on Christmas night. A week later, me & the wife were talking. I told her at least I could get a casket built cheap (om is a carpenter) if she/they had decided to kill me. We both had a good laugh.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>