OffOnOnOff, I posted it in Recovery,I think.<BR>Things are going fine. We talked 4 or 5 times today. Having fun. She asked when she should move back, I said tomorrow, she said she has to give some notice. I said that's why I didn't say today. I said I'd call 2 men and a truck movers to come and pick her and her stuff up. She laughed. Then I told her how I got stuck in traffic on the way to 2nd job. I had to change in the car,she laughed and asked how far down I had to change. I told her down to underwear, she said it's been too long since she saw me in just underwear. Said it's been a long dry spell. Said she never left me for him, just needed a place to stay to get her head together. Not romantic with him, He wanted her, she never wanted him, just needed break to see where she was with us. Wanted to see if the marriage was important to me too. I have learned to lighten up and not act so old. To be more fun and not so judgemental. Thanked her for the courage to do what she did. She said she was tired of being ignored and having to pick at me to be heard or get a response. I told her that I had to go through this too. I needed to really feel what it was like to be without her. I know now, and don't ever want to be there again. We talk so easily now, but I have to keep in mind that I need to listen and not fall back into past bad habits. We both admit having made mistakes that hurt other one, but we both seen quick to reasure the other too. <BR>it's all going better than I dared hope. Thanks to you all. <P>Darn spelling/grammer/incomplete idea edits.<BR>can never get it right first time, can always go back and fix it. sort of like life, if people let you.<p>[This message has been edited by Daniel (edited November 14, 2000).]