Now that we live into our 70's and 80's and even 90's ...do you think it's unrealistic to think we can stay married for a life time to the same person...?<P>Need input...Trying to accept...maybe this is meant to be.....

Well, when I get to a certain age I sure am not going to be hitting the single scene looking for a change !

CM....<BR>You made me laugh...an imagine of me with a cane or walker hitting the single scene looking for someone...NOT a pretty sight...<P>But that's not what I meant...<BR>I mean do we really expect it's unrealistic to live with someone maybe 25 or 30 years and then get tired or bored or just want someting different for the next quarter century of our lives?<P>For me I imagined getting old(er) with my H...seeing us as much in love as the day we got married....<BR>I remember on our wedding day..we stopped at a restrauant on our way to our honeymoon and before we got out of our car...H planted a big kiss on me and was telling me how much he loved me...when we finally broke apart....to my amazement their was this older couple that had just come out of the restruant and had seen the signs all over the car that said JUST MARRIED and they were grinning from ear to ear...<BR>As we stepped out of the car the man approached my H and shook his hand and congratulated him and this wife said it's nice to see people so in love like us....<P>I remember thinking...my life with this man is just beginning and I hope 35 40 years down the road we are as happy as they seemed to be and I mean they were still holding hands....and you could just tell they were still in love with each other.....<BR>We were like that until 18 months ago..so for 27 1/2 years God the love I felt he had for me and I for him.....<P>So now that he has said he can't imagine more of this for the rest of his life....that makes me rethink is it realistic to think it could be that way...?<P>

hi tyra,<BR>I moved to FL a few mos ago....there are a few seniors her, just a few! <BR>I find it amazing how many have been married for 60 yrs. They seem happy and satisfied together-they seem content. <BR>When I read your post, I could envision my h being 80, out at a bar, trying to pick up women. LMAO!!!

Tyra,<BR>I think we can stay with one person until you are in your 80's and 90's. Married couples did it before; and I'm sure married couples can still do it now. <P>------------------<BR>PSALMS 133<BR>AMOS 7:7-8<BR>ECCLESIASTES 12:1-7

I read somewhere that historical research has shown that 200 years ago, if you made it to middle age you had just as much chance of making it to 80 as you do now. The life expectancy was so much lower because so many died during childhood, a higher percentage of men were employed in dangerous occupations, and a lot of women died in childbirth. <P>I think people are just as capable of staying together now for 40 years as they were then. Of course there has always be infidelity, but the opportunity to meet large numbers of people of the opposite sex wasn't as readily available. It's not easy to carry on an affair while you are caring for several little children and putting up all your food; nor is it easy to leave the horses in the North forty and head into town for an afternoon tryst.<P>It is not so much that people worked longer hours - actually I have read they work longer hours now. There was an article in Time or Newsweek recently that said people used to sleep significantly longer before the advent of electricity, though. Sometimes I wonder how much lack of sleep is also contributing to depression that often leads to an affair.

I have read all of your post and I agree with everyone...In one way or another...<P>I guess working the north forty...canning my own vegestables and sleeping longer hours would leave me little time for an affair...as well as living isolated from others of the opposite sex...<P>So I guess if my marriage ends in Divorce I will try to find maybe a MAN that lives in the wilderness of Alaska..hunts for our food...I will can all summer in preperation for winter...and make sure we don't live NEAR any neighbors....<P>Isolate ourselves from the rest of the world and only live for each other....Maybe then I can make it a marriage for LIFE.....<P>Oh by the way since I am done having children...we won't have to worry about that aspect...Maybe we'll get a dog or two....<P><BR>Sorry for the mood...just feel like giving up on my hopes and dreams....<P>On second thought I'll go do that.. live in Alaska by myself...be my own best friend...well maybe I will still have two dogs for company...;-)

I've worked with seniors now for 14 years. I have learned so much from them. Thru our seperation (which they did not know about) I observed the generation who, for the most part did not believe in divorce, and gained so much confidence and reassurance that my marriage was worth saving - for all the years of togetherness that we had waiting for us. It is about changing, loving and being there for each other as best friends forever. Iam4us