ilovehim<P>If you have your H there reading this with you, then let him read this.<BR> <BR>To ilovehim's H:<BR>For whatever reason you have decided to stay in your relationship, make this YOUR choice. If you have decided this, then you have reached a turning point in your marriage. I cannot begin to tell how important NO CONTACT is. Start this off by writing the no contact letter and do from the stand point that this is what you need to do to put an end to your affair. If this does not take place then you leave the door open for the OW to return through it. Do not end it with a phone call or a face to face meeting. Remember, that it the point of NO CONTACT. Last yeat I failed to do this and thus I left the door open for the A to resume.<P>People suffer withdrawal from many things in their life. That is the result of addictions and breaking away from them. People are addicted to affairs for many reasons. No matter if it was love, friendship, sex, money, or whatever the attraction, it is all the same. There is one thing that is almost certain, the affair will end. You are seeing the OW at her best and she is meeting something that is making you feel good about yourself. That is the reason most men get involved with other women. She does have a negative side and sooner or later, you will see that. If you can see any of those sides now, withdrawal will go away quickly. Continue with your counseling with Steve and I think he will help you and your W. Stay away from the OW and focus your energy on your W and much as you can. Whatever need the OW was meeting, tell you W and work on meeting each others needs. I have a copy of my letter of no contact that I would be glad to share with you if you need it.<P>Good luck ILH......fs
