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Well, My H moved out 9 weeks ago and I have not heard a word from him since. His mail is piling up, I have stopped worring about it.<P>Has anyone gone longer with no contact once they left the house? Will he ever contact me again do you think? I have sent a couple of letters but heard nothing in return. <P>I guess my plan is to continue to try and hold out for 6 months, then figure its time to move on. 6 months seems like a long ways away some days. I am starting to feel like I am OK alone, I am afraid soon I will not really want to put in any effort if he wants to come back. That sort of scares me.<BR>Lora
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No real good advice here...9 weeks is a long time...I am not familiar with your story completely...did he move in with the OW? I would definitely keep working on yourself. Not sure I would be holding the torch for him...so to speak. It's rough if he has had no contact. I applaud your strength. Take care of you. He will or will not make it back, and either way you need to grow past this one way or the other. <BR>Take care<BR>
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Thanks for the response, cpickle,<P>I think he moved into his own apartment, not in with OW although I have no proof of that.<BR>Its hard to feel in such limbo. To want to move on, but to want to wait too.<BR>Lora
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Hi Lora,<P>Nice to hear from you..<BR>Yes, 9 weeks is pretty long. But till I contacted my H recently he never contacted me from his side and it was about for 2+ months.<BR>I know what you mean.. you want to move on and at the same time you want to wait.<BR>with time I believe one of these feelings will get stronger.. <P>I know you are strong and doing well(with what you have had to go through).<BR>Did you buy nice clothes lately ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) ?<BR>I hope your in-laws continue to support you emotionally.<P>Take care of yourself,<BR>Hugs,<P>Meg<BR><p>[This message has been edited by MF (edited November 15, 2000).]
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Lora,<P>I can not imagine it, but I am sure it is his loss...<P>And what he said about home repairs...he meant it! Your H is is a fine example of an honorable person...not.<P>
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Hi Meg,<BR>Im trying to control the shopping impuses. <BR>I'm going to the in-laws for Thanksgiving next week. We will see how it goes. I am trying hard not to feel like I am keeping him from going by my being there.<P>FHL,<BR>Its hard to feel much respect for him at this point. I just dont know if this can be repaired. <BR>Lora
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Lora,<BR>Its 3 am my time,just letting you know I am here.Glad you feel you can make it on your own.Talk later.<BR> Love and Prayers,Beth
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Lora,<P>Sorry to hear that you haven't heard from H yet. Is he a man with a lot of pride?<P>Last month my MIL wanted to have a birthday get together at my home with ALL her children and grandkids. I emailed my H and told him that I hope we can put aside our differences and hope he will attend his mother's birthday party. He showed up! It wasn't all that uncomfortable, but at least he showed up.<P>Try it, at least he'll know that you don't want to keep him from his family. <P>Love and blessings, MT
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Thanks Beth,<BR>Glad to hear you sounding stronger too.<P>MT,<BR>Well, in my last letter I said I was going to his moms for thanksgiving and I hoped I would see him there before he went to work. I guess we will see if he has the courage to show up.<BR>Lora
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