Ok, here's the problem. <P>H and I seem to be on a see-saw, actually he's on it, and I'm just along for the ride. One day, Wednesday for example, was fantastic. He got off work at a reasonable hour, met us at soccer practice, when we were leaving he came back to my car just to give me a kiss and tell me he loved me. That was like Christmas to me. We come home, he stops and gets us some great Italian carry out. After we eat he watches the kids so I can escape to Target alone. Christmas again. I come home we watch a DVD, have FANTASTIC sex, lay in bed watching TV and talking for a while, then go to sleep in each others arms. Yes, Christmas again.<P>Next morning, he doesn't have to be to work til 1, and for once he actually stays home with us instead of going in to work. Again, sex before work. Very kissy huggy morning. I'm on cloud 9 all day. <P>Now here's where we run into the problem. He comes home, had to work til 8. Kind of quiet, sort of irritable, no kiss, no hug, lays on the couch and watches a movie. No sex, no holding, no nothing. Kind of like the Grinch who stole Christmas. The no sex, no big deal. It's the distancing himself that is driving me insane!!!<P>He does this constantly. If we have a great day, I can guarantee the next he will be distant. WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!?!? <P>He notices it himself, but thought it was me. Says he'll make a note on his blotter at work if we have a good day and sure enough the next will be not so good. Well, duh, it's a self-fulfilling prophesy. I've pointed out that I notice on the next day he seems kind of distant and cold. He agrees now that it's probably him. He removes himself so I can't do it first.<P>Well, I'm not distancing myself anymore. I tried that for a long time, and quiet frankly it didn't work too well for me.<P>What can I do to at the very least to keep myself up when he does the down thing so that I don't spend the third day (today) down which will bring him down when he comes home up tonight? I'm not even going to attempt to change him, he's got to do that. And hopefully if I can keep up my moods without letting him bring me down it will influence him to stay up.<P>HELP!!!
