Just wanted to say a quick hello to all my friends out there. I don't know if there are any of my "old" friends here anymore, but just wanted to thank you all for everything you did for me. I haven't been on MB for a LONG time, so most of you may not know my long, sad story. But, it's a happy one now! Just Learning, you'd be quite surprised in my change of attitude! <P>I've stayed away so that the OM thing didn't affect me so badly. I was on-line way too much dwelling on everything and it didn't help my trying to get over OM. But, I wanted to spread some encouragement and understanding here, since I had so much of that when I was going through my situation.<P>So, if anyone needs a word of encouragement, just holler! I'm also available by e-mail: w_m3@hotmail.com.<P>My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you that are down, confused, hurt, etc. Hang in there! And also <P>Love, <BR>Momma

Hey, Momma! Thanks for "popping in" I really appreciate it . If there is anyone lurking who knows my story, and how far I've come, well, a lot of the credit goes to Momma.<P>When I first started on MB, Momma encouraged me to e-mail her. She was a little further along in the recovery process than me, and she always gave me wonderful advice and insight. I kind of viewed her as my little "pace car." Every time she made it over a hurdle, I knew that I could make it over that hurdle. And sometimes when she had a tough time making it over that hurdle, I was there to pick her up. But more often than not, she was the one leading and clearing the way for me. So, if you're lurking, and you're a WS who wants/needs some encouragement - I would email her and ask for her advice. If you are a BS and need a little encouragement, to see what the possibilities are, I would email her. <P>Sorry about attracting all this attention to your email address, Momma, but you are one of the most sincere, kind, compassionate, and loving people I know. I am so glad that you "reached out" to me when I first started posting. You always encouraged me, and for that I will always be in your debt.<P>P.S. I hope you're email doesn't get flooded and you forget about me ! I am so happy for you and your H - you have come a long way, and doesn't it finally feel good?

Hi Momma,<P>It is good to hear from you again. From your post to LiL and what SKM has said, it seems as if you are dong very well. I am so glad to hear that. <P>Please tell me how I would be surprised at your new attitude. I would love to hear it. But I hate to say this , I always thought you would get through this and have a good marriage.<P>So bring it on Girl! Tell us about the new attitude. I have a feeling many people here will learn alot from you.<P>God Bless,<P>JL

Thank you guys for your replies! You don't know how good that makes me feel. If I could help just one person with my story, that makes all the difference in the world! <P>Thank you, SKM! I really appreciate your kind words! And you know I'd never forget about you! <P>JL, I can remember a few times when you basically told me to wake up and smell the coffee! And I did! Your straight forward point of view was very eye opening to me. <P>My new attitude? Well, concerning the OM, there is no concern. I think finally after SO long, I am completely over him. I can't say I'll never think of him again, but I can say I definitely won't ever be w/him. In some ways, I think that A died a natural death, yet was more complicated because of the child factor. I still miss the OM occassionally, not because I want him, but just miss him as you would miss an old friend that you are no longer in touch with or someone who has died. He no longer exists in my life. For me, no contact is best. I think that's really the only way to get past the A.<P>Also, I know that I belong w/my H, and I am <B>SO THANKFUL</B> that I never lost him!! I knew before that the "right" thing was to stay w/my H, but know I <B>want</B> to be with him. I absolutely don't want to be without him, I really don't know what I'd do w/out him! That is another change of attitude. I will never take my H for granted again, and I think he feels the same about me. Luckily for us, it wasn't too late.<P>Well, gotta go for now, I'll be back later! Thanks, again!!!