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My H was a no show at his mothers. No call or anything so now she is kind of ticked at him, but she probably wont say so to his face.<P>I was prepared to face him so feel sort of let down, and upset that he obviously didn't want to see me. There goes all the good possibilities of why he was going to show up.<P>So I guess that is it, I may never see him or talk to him again. Will have to make my peace with that again. Shoot, I didnt even see him and it got me all stirred up.<BR>Lora
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Lora!<P>I was expecting a loooong update!<BR>Too bad he didn't show up.. maybe he got cold feet I think.. You were disappointed, but relieved at the same time?<BR>I bet you looked fabulous with the new outfit you just bought.. it was his loss he couldn't see you! <P>OK, you know you get to see him when time is right..(but who's time is this anyway?) Maybe on Christmas day? Do you usually go to your in-laws for a Christmas party?<P>Anyway I will suggest you buy more clothes(hehehehehe)!<P>Did you have lots of fun at in-laws? That's the most important part....<P>Meg<BR>
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Lora<P>Your husband took the easy way out, or in other words the cowards approach. He has to live with his decision of letting you and his family down. He is obviously not thinking with the right side of his brain at the moment.<P>Sometimes the Universe just takes care of the good people and you are one of them, maybe it is a sign that it just was not the right time or place to see this man for the first time.<P>You have been so patient, so genuinely patient that I feel for you. Hold on, when things just don't seem to work out there is always a very good reason for it.<P>Forevertrue
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Lora,<BR>So sorry H did not show up,his loss.I know <BR>you are tired of all this ,but dont give up.<BR>You have some positive things going for you. <BR>Your h is confused,he has not filed for divorce,and you have the support of his family.Iam glad you are going to give it more time.<BR> Hugs and prayers,beth
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I'm so sorry Lora. I know how a part of you was so looking forward to finally seeing him.<P>But like Alone1 said ... you do have so much going for you ... he hasn't filed and daily you're getting stronger. Please don;t let this take you back too many steps, Hon. Try to understand that his guilt and shame drove him to this decision ... not being able to face his own family.<P>If it's any consolation, I guarantee you he didn;t have a very happy Thanksgiving. I'm sure al of this was weighing on him heavily.<P>Love you, Lora.<P>Jo
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Lora,<P>Is your H living with OW? I would bet that perhaps if she knew you were going to be there that she threw a hissy and he didn't go to keep peace. If so, that would be a huge LB on her part. It would also make you look even better than ever, after all you were a big enough person and had enough confidence to go.
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Meg,<BR>Well, now I dont know if I should go for Xmas. Yes, shopping will make it better I think. LOL Everyone else liked my new outfit.<P>Forevertrue,<BR>Thanks for the kind words. I guess there is some other plan at work here. Maybe I wasn't ready to see him. He apparently was not ready to see me.<P>Beth,<BR>I'm starting to hate the word patience...<P>Jo, <BR>I hope all of the wayword spouses had a lousey holiday!<P>PamO, <BR>well, i dont think he is living with her. I think its more that he is a chicken and a conflict avoider.<BR>Lora
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