I haven't posted in awhile but with a long weekend and my feelings racing I thought I would try and get some insight. I don't know why I have this feeling that I have to know why my H can't tell the truth even though it stares him right in the face.<P>He left Wednesday to go to his lawyers or face going to jail for not complying with the judges orders to give his statement of net worth. I have dragged my feet as long as I could but he showed NO signs of even wanting to work on our marriage. The only thing he wanted to do was to sit on the fence post basking in the best of both worlds her and me. <P>So as usual when something doesn't go his way he goes out and drowns his sorrows. Well he did and I didn't see him again until last night(Friday). He spent all that time and even Thanksgiving with the horrible OW. She must just be puffed up bigger than life thinking she got him for the holiday and the poor wife was home by herself. <P>The thing I don't understand is why won't my H admit where he was when I know for a fact he was with her. His clothes smelled like her perfume and laundry detergent. Yeah maybe that seems weird to some of you but I can just smell that smell and it makes me sick. But of course he wasn't with her but couldn't tell me where he had been so I know.<P>The OW has been living with her parents and her father bought her a double wide house which is about 20 miles from our house. I asked my H when he was moving in with her and he said he wasn't. What gives all this time over a year that they hide and cheat and lie when everyone knows what is going on now they can be together in a new place and out in the open. Why won't he go? Does he enjoy punishing me every time he has to do something he doesn't want to and comes and goes when he wants and knows that it just about kills me when he does not to mention lying on top of it.<P>I feel like calling the OW up and telling her that I will have his bags packed for her to come and get seeing he seems to have made his choice of who he wants. But I won't do that because she would just gloat like usual about me not being able to satisfy my H. Well I won't drink with him everynight and stroke his ego about how bad his marriage and wife is and he needs to get out and not feel guilty it isn't his fault.<P>I wish he would leave and see what she is like all the time. Maybe then he would better understand the type of woman she is and what their relationship would be. Not just this play around thing and sneak around.<P>I know I am ranting and off the subject and I looking for something I will never find or go crazy trying?

We must have married identical twins or something. . .<P>I'm sorry that you had to spend Thanksgiving alone--I did too. So I know how you feel. I guess I left my husband because I refused to be the position of being "one of two women." I am his wife, and I don't think that I could have handled not being his one and only. I let him have what he thought he wanted until the day he decides he doesn't want it anymore. Thus, I spent the holiday alone.<P>You're not crazy--he is. <P>Good luck to you. Stay strong.<P>Mary