Hi Nellie,<BR>I'm just checking in to see how you and the kids are doing.<BR>Since you and I have a lot of similarities in our H, I feel like we can relate.<BR>Are you on Plan B or Plan A? Is your H living w/ OW? How much contact do you have with him (phone calls-visitation, etc.)?<BR>Sorry for all the questions, but I am feeling pretty lost right now. I feel like I have blown any kind of reconcilation out the window. All that LOVEBUSTING!<BR>I'm trying Plan B again. So far so good, today, that is.<BR>Take care.<P>Cheryl

ceecee,<BR>I was just posting another topic while you were posting this. I'm not actually on this board 24 hours a day - it just seems like it.<P>I have been in Plan A just about since he left over six months ago. He has been living with the OW since at least June, and was probably living with her most of the time since the night he moved out. I know that is where he went when he left. I see him a couple of times a week at least, when he comes to pick up/drop off the kids, and am in more frequent contact via email. He almost never calls.<P>I don't know if you should worry too much about lovebusting. I have done very little that he could consider lovebusting since he left, except for not being willing to go to court and say that our marriage is irretrievably broken. But it hasn't done any good at all - he has become increasingly uncomfortable around me anyway. Yesterday I told him I had found a job, and although he asked me a couple of questions about what I would be doing (we are in similar fields), he didn't ask any of the "normal" questions I would expect him to ask about things that would impact our kids - like what hours I was working. He once, while he was still home, told me he couldn't understand why I would be interested in hearing about what was going on at work, - basically he could not comprehend why someone would care to know any details about anyone else's day-to-day life. He has rarely asked the kids what's happening in their lives either, at least not in the past few years. I just don't get it.