This is kind of a looong story.... My husband started work at a factory, and a week later, I started at the same place. Well, I had worked there before and knew almost everyone. My FIRST day back on the job, guess who I got to meet.... yes, my husband's "girlfriend". We fought, he yelled, I yelled, I cried, we hashed it out. She was telling me things, as were people that didn't even know me. Things that are very characteristic of him.... the same things he said to me to snag me when we got together. And, of course, to this very day, he still denies anything. So I told him, "we'll drop it for now", and I did. But this a.m., I got up, he was in here on the computer, browsing all these porn sites. And this is not the first time it has happened. I use to catch him doing this all the time. I thought we resolved this issue the last time this happened. And, a few.. maybe... six, months ago, I was checking my email at yahoo, and my husband forgot to log off his account. When I went to check mine, it automatically logged into his account. Well, I found his account name and password for "Adult Friend Finder" in there, so I checked it out. This was a newly placed ad stating that he was ISO descreet sex, one on one something or other, he was single, blah blah blah.... <P>What can I do? I am so tired of fighting with him about stuff like this. It just makes me feel like no matter what I do, I just can't make him happy enough. I cook (very well I might add), I clean, I wait on him hand and foot. I just can't see what I am doing wrong that would make him want to go somewhere else.<P>Can Anyone Please Help?<BR>AH

Welcome <B>lav0212</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://pages.ivillage.com/re/mb_nsr/MB_GW.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><P><B>About your post</B>...<P>I can't tell from your post...<BR>...is the affair (with the GF) still going on?<P>Does your H need help?...<BR>...you bet!...<P>Check out the following...<BR><A HREF="http://www.wildxangel.com/" TARGET=_blank>What They're Not Telling You - Or How to Read Between the Lies!!</A><BR><A HREF="http://www.chatcheaters.com" TARGET=_blank>Internet Infidelity Prevention, Detection, Advice and Books</A><BR><A HREF="http://netaddiction.com/" TARGET=_blank>Center for On-Line Addiction</A><BR>and...<BR><A HREF="http://www.sa.org/b000english/b020problem.html" TARGET=_blank>Sexaholics Anonymous</A><P>He needs attention in this matter...<BR>...and quickly...<P>...and yes... to work on your marriage... both H's problem (addiction) and the marriage have to be addressed!<P>On your part... no matter how hard it sounds... I'd say... start on <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A>...<BR>...also check out <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P>You have my thoughts and prayers.<P> <P>Jim