My, oh my, I am in a warped mood today my friends! But it seems like we're kind of in a slump here at MB, so I need to take it upon myself to try to lift the morale a little bit. <P>I've always wanted to ask the OW why she did what she did. I always wanted to let her know how I felt, and find out how she could have such low morals. But I was afraid I'd end up decking her if I ever met her, so H made SURE that I never did. But still, I always fantasized telling her exactly what I think of her and what she did...here's my letter:<P>(Disclaimer - these opinions are slightly embellished, and are mine and mine alone. They are not intended to hurt anybody - it's merely an outlet of my frustrations.) <P><I><BR>Dear OW,<P>My name is Carolina Belle. You don’t know me, but you know my husband a lot better than you should. I know that you are a botched-up lobotomy who seems to think that she is “in love” with my husband and has a future with him. I’m going to get a few things off of my chest and set the record straight about this.<P>Sneaking out to meet with another woman’s husband to get a 15 second lay in my car at 4:00 am is NOT “in love,” I’m sorry to inform you. It may be exciting, but let’s face it, if my husband REALLY got a good look at you, he’d run for cover. In a warehouse full of old men and dead fish, I’m sure you did look decent in comparison, but in the real world and next to me, honey, you don’t stand a chance. If you want excitement, don’t look to a man with a family to get it. Go skydiving. Without a parachute. Over a lion’s den.<P>No, sweetie pie, you don’t even know my husband. You’ve seen his best side, but baby girl, you wouldn’t stand a snowball’s chance in hell with him in the real world. You see, my husband is using you as an escape, which I will take partial responsibility for. But our love isn’t just a momentary thing – it’s everlasting, and it’s something that your few months of quickies can’t hold a candle to. Can you still “love him” after dealing with his flatulence, his demands, his calling you at work while he’s in the bathroom? His smelly socks around the house, his coming home smelling like fish eggs during salmon season? And most of all, his little boy, whom he loves dearly, knowing that you caused his mom and dad to break up and resenting you for it? You see, I’ve known him for years, and I’ve loved him regardless of his faults. You couldn’t handle being with him day-to-day in the real world. I love every minute of it.<P>How dare you try to break up somebody’s family! Why don’t you close your legs and think about that one moment? Just because you can sleep with him does NOT mean you can have a long-lasting relationship with him. It takes a lot of arrogance to think that my husband would sacrifice his wife, family, reputation, and everything that we have built together for a tramp like yourself. I mean, what else can you be, sleeping with a married man? A momentary lapse in judgment is not worth what he stands to lose, and if you were any kind of a woman, you’d bow out, go get tested for STD’s, spend some time in a room with padded walls and reflect on what’s right and what’s wrong. <P>Stop contacting my husband. It doesn’t take a boiled bunny to realize that you are crazy and obsessive. He will realize it soon enough. You don’t have a relationship with him – HE IS MARRIED. GET A CLUE! He’s not going to run away with you, he’s not going to leave his family, and even if he did, YOU COULDN’T HANDLE IT! Get over it! Do the right thing for once in your life.<P>Sincerely,<BR>Carolina Belle<P>cc: FBI Psychopath File<BR> Restraining Order File<BR> Closure File<BR></I><P>Forgive me, y'all, but I'd had enough of the OW getting the upperhand, and it's what I would LOVE to say to mine, at least.

Carolina Belle,<P>Thanks for writing the letter I would of written 4 years ago! Just didn't have all the facts mam! Fear kept me from doing what you just did. Yours was cathartic for me!<P>Taj

Good one CB! I often thought about contacting her and giving her what for, and I often wonder how well it would go over, would I affect her cold calculating heart, you see, she knew me, pretended to be my friend and used me. What would she do with a letter, probably rip it up unread. So I don't bother.<BR>About two weeks ago my SIL who is still friends with her had a long conversation with me about how she wants to meet with me! After two years she has the nerve! She thinks I should hear her side of the story! I know her side, she did it in front of me most of the time. She flaunted herself, cuddled up to his GIANT male ego that I was tired of feeding because my ego was running on empty from him, and then used all that I told her, all that I felt and all that she could to get in the sack with him and make him believe he was leaving me! What Croc! Well, she soon found out that when it came down to the wire I was what he settled for. She probably is still licking her wounds. Speak to her again, over my dead body!!!! I don't need her as a friend, with friends like that who needs enemy's !!!!!!! LOL<BR>Thanks for the lightning of the mood though, you sure made me feel better! <P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!

Hey CB<P>Do ya think she really knows what the term 'flatulence' means?<P>To be safe, use smaller words to make sure she kan reed itt.<P>lol Go girl. It's good seeing someone really let it flow. <P>Khyra

Carolina Belle:<P>Glad you *got over*...even if only in an unsent letter! (IMHO, the BEST WAY TO VENT!)<P>Peace, ~Marie<P>------------------<BR>"If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars." ~unknown

/<p>[This message has been edited by Trapped Mom (edited March 20, 2001).]

loved your letter. I have written many (unsent) to the OW in my life. ?<P>I have had e-mail's from her twice which I answered & forward to my H. He said he stop her from harrassing me. Then the next time she e-mailed she said harrasment wasn't in her make-up, I wanted to tell her those weren't my words. Just told her if she loved my H as much as she says she stop calling all hours of the night & let him sleep. She replied that I couldn't understand a love like their's. GAh. Haven't heard from her since. <P><BR>Their love is so complete I could never understand & it is not about sex to quote the wonderful OW. Hope St. NIck brings her coal, wish she burn in it. <p>[This message has been edited by sing (edited December 01, 2000).]

Love it!<BR>--AR<BR>

CB....I love this letter!

Next week I'm going to a Christmas party where it is likely the OW will be. She and all the (stupid) people who think my H took advantage of her. HUH? She didn't notice our family pic on his desk, or me on his arm the last night of the convention she floozed him at? Or that he lived at home and I generally answered those hang-up phone calls?<P>Oh, I digress.<P>This party is giving me a touch of apprehension.<P>CB, could I have your copyright permission to have this copied into a nice transparency for the overhead projector? And can I change "OW" to "FSWB" and "Carolina Belle" to "Lor (Lor)" and put "the names in this letter have been changed to reflect the name of the aggrieved" at the bottom? I'll use your copyright notice .<P>Or, is plagarism okey dokey, as I might have a few other things to say...?<P>(Just kidding about the transparency, I think fliers at the table with a nice caricature would be more appropriate, you know, so people could have a little remembrance).<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Lor (Lor) (edited November 30, 2000).]

I love it, Lor! Do it! Do it! As for the letter, Carolina Belle, I'd send it. You betcha!!<P>Okay....now down to earth. I guess it wouldn't be such a good thing, but boy, would it make us feel better....ooooooooo....<P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>

Fliers are good. <BR>After some discovery, I uh...uh....uh...ahem, did a few things that one should not put in writing. One that was real effective had t do with fliers! <BR>Lor, I think the overhead would be a good in the mens room of a rather large posh hotel? <BR>Love the letter CB. I am just laughing away.<BR>Thanks for the smiles-I needed them today!

CB, are you SURE that the OW in your life is not the slug? She really sounds as if she has the same small minded mentality. She asked me if I knew the poem "If you love something, set it free" ... what a b... ok, I'll behave.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Terri,<P>Did you ask the slug if she'd heard of a little "poem" called THE TEN COMMANDMENTS? You know the one that goes something like "thou shalt not commit adultery"?

I called the OW after I found her pathetic letter - see my story under just found out - i also wrote her a letter which I sent with the bracelet she had given my son (which he never wore). Here is how the conversation went <P>Me: "hello can i speak with B..."<BR>Her: "this is B..."<BR>Me: "do you know who this is?"<BR>Her: "no"<BR>Me: "this is ...., -----'s wife<BR>Her: "oh hi how are you?" (not realising i'd read it I guess)<BR>Me: "Fine considering I read the letter you wrote to my husband"<BR>Her: "Where do you get that from"<BR>Me: "you know the love letter..."<BR>Her: "so"<BR>Me: "so why are you writing your letters to my husband"<BR>Her: "why don't you ask him that?"<BR>Me: "i did but I'm asking you why?"<BR>Her: "well i just thought there were some things that had ro be said"<BR>Me: "you are such a loser"<BR>Her: "I am not a loser" (getting angry)<BR>Me: (cool as a cucumber) "yes you are, you ran after someone you knew was taken, you pushed your way into his life, and because you wer so desperate you gave him your virginity and he ****ed you and dumped you"<BR>Her: "that's not the way I see it"<BR>Me: "well that is the way he sees it"<BR>Her: "are you sure about that?"<BR>Me: "he swears on God's name he never loved you or even found you attractive he just used you"<BR>Her: (very angry and insolent "well whats your problem then?"<BR>Me: You're writing love letters to my husband.. why don't you call him and see what he has to say .. i'll give you his number<BR>Her: (nastily) I already have his number<BR>Me: "so call him"<BR>Her: "i think I'll do that." Click<P>... she never did have to guts to call him and when he tried to call her she hung up on him.<P>When I find the copy I will post the letter i wrote