so what else is new right? So I sent H a letter on Sunday night, he hadn't spoken to me see I blew up on Friday. I told him that I think we need to discuss integrating our lives better if this remote marriage thing is going to work. Well Monday morning at 4 am he calls and leaves an apology vmessage on my cell phone. He then tries a couple more times to get a hold of me later in the day. no luck. He still hasn't called me from a land line where he isn't driving and talking and the conversations last more than 5 minutes. He called yesterday morning and told me he had bought a bed but he didn't tell me that he had gone on a shopping spree and didn't ask me or obviously check the accounts before he started his spending. Since he is buying furniture for this new place I am assuming that he must have moved in...but didn't think to ask during our 5 minute discussion. I asked him if he had gotten my e-mail from the weekend about spending money and us needing to discuss it. He said he hadn't checked his account and that I should e-mail him at work. Still no plan to talk about what is happening here. He told me he would call me in the afternoon, nothing, he calls this morning at 5 am and wakes me up...tells me he is going on a business trip and is sitting on the plan, was thinking about me and wanted to call. 2 minutes I think was the duration of this call...see it's not that he is driving this morning and heading into a black out zone, this time he is sitting on the plane...anyway he also sent me an e-mail of stupid pictures of nothing this morning. <BR>I am tired of the smoke and mirrors, we have real issues to discuss and I am tired of the superficial chit chat. <BR>Does anyone else have experience with this type of behavior. I know some of you have been living apart, separated from your WS this was not to be a separation...but it is turning out to be just that.