You know I have been on this board for almost a year...10 or 11 months now...and I have seen so much good and bad that we have all gone through. I am not certain that mine is classic case, but I am more confused than ever. There is a wall that is between my H and I like there has never been before. Our conversations are superficial. He has his life 3000 miles away and has no plans to come home. I have sent him e-mails asking for us to work together to have a plan for when he will visit, or I visit him. I have no response from him. Today I called him after no hearing from him for days and asked if he had read my e-mail. He said he had and that he responded, I never got the response. Mostly because I don't believe there was one. He said that he doesn't like to talk to me because we always end up in a fight...funny last I checked we had not separated and he had promised to come home last weekend, instead I was left to go to the a concert and a play by myself while he went to visit his parents. He is totally wrapped up in his job, and will not make time for me or our relationship. I am so confused....

I don't know all your stroy but is there a reason, that you didn't move with your H?<P>Thinking of you.

He didn't ask me to move with him. He made the decision to take the job without really discussing it with me, I got asked 5 minutes before he was going to accept it and he called me from his cell phone while I was at work. He had mentioned the job but then did not talk to me about it at all that weekend, Monday morning, he was basically calling me to tell me he was taking it and that he would get an apartment there, come home on the weekends and eventually he would work from our home. Since he has been gone the calls have gotten less frequent and he has not come home, even for Thanksgiving and has no plans to come home this month. Guess I had sucker written all over my face again.