Hi. I am an MB veteran and I'll pass on some of the great advice I was given over a year ago.<P>First, As Bonnie says, don't do anything to 'free up' the other woman to come after your h. again. <P>My situation was VERY similar to yours in that my h. didn't end the affair, he was dumped.<P>He thought this coworker loved him and would leave her h. and kids for him, but it turned out that he was her THIRD office affair, and she was sleeping with the CFO, my h., and her husband, and thinks that this is normal. (She can't help it, she is from Arkansas). <P>She told me that her relationships with the CFO and my h. didn't need to threaten their marriages, but that the two men just "Take sex way too seriously". "It was just for fun, but they got all attached."<P>I guess what I am saying is, although you would like revenge, I advise that you just pray for justice and count on 'Karma" God is not mocked...they always get caught eventually. Don't dirty your hands with it. Take the high road and work on your marriage. I did and it made our recovery so much easier than if I had been the one to 'OUT' her. <P>BTW- it took a year, but the breastless wonder, ol' baggy eyes herself was forced to leave her job in disgrace. Everyone in their profession now knows that she is an office slut. I take great pleasure in that, as well as in the knowledge that I didn't do it to her out of spite...in fact, I didn't do anything at all but pray and wait.<P>I look like a saint to everyone in our social circle now....because I did the HARD, RIGHT THING.<P>be strong and work on yourself.<P>Have you ever read "The Power of A Praying Wife?" Pop over to the Women's Bible Study forum for support in doing the right thing. Ask Taj or any of the other ladies for prayer support and advice.<P>lizpearl
