I'm not even real sure how to put this question I have into words but here goes. My Ws says she doesn't like sex very much and definitely not after she's been drinking or is stressed. Yet she managed to have two one nighters after drinking and then after I found out about that she went ahead and slept with the OM that she said she was having an EA with. She said she "had to know". She says nothing has happened physically after that and that it is now just an emotional thing for her to get over. She has no desire to have any physical relations with me. She's either been drinking or is stressed from work or whatever. How is it that she can manage to get aroused for total strangers even when she's drinking but not with me... Makes a person really feel worthless.. Also what do you make of the "I had to know" statement. That really bothered me because it was almost like she had to know how he was in bed.. Yet she claims to not really care for sex... In the beginning of our relationship together some of the most passionate times were when we had been out having a few... Now it seems like any excuse... It just boggles my mind how she can be so intimate with a total stranger and not with someone she's been with for so long... Crick