My week seems to be going OK. Monday was tough I actually did a bad thing and called H because I had a bad day and needed someone to talk to. I know I cannot do this..<P>Today was good he called to tell me he was not going to be able to pick up my D for her guitar lessons. He went home from work due to some dental surgery he had and he was not feelin well. <BR>I said that I understood and for him to get some rest. I wished him well and asked if he needed anything. Later htis evening I called and checked up on him to see if he was feeling any better. He needs to use my car to go get a fix it ticket signed off so, I also asked him when he needed it to let me know. He was very appreciative and said thank you when we got off the phone.<P>This feels really good but here is my problem....<P>H takes my son on the weekends and everytime my son comes home he tells me about his outings with H and OW.. This throws me in to a tissy. I feel uncontrolable and always end up calling him. My son has issues with OW. Mostly he feels uncomfortable about her. He (S) has even said he hates her. Now I cannot decide if my rage is beacause of my son's feelings or if it is just the confirmation that she is there. I have no clue but, I need to stop doing this.<P>When we end our conversations during the week I feel really good but Sundays are hell for me. Any advice on how I can stop doing this..<P>My D on the otherhand will not attend gatherings with him and OW so she is being left out. <P>For some reason he needs the OW there when he has the kids. Is it just a territorial thing for me. Is it that I do not want her around MY children and that I feel the need to protect them? OR is it just jealousy of her and him having family time with my kids?

Gooch - I think it's normal not to want your kids around the OP. I certainly don't. But there's nothing we can do about it unless there is a real threat to their safety. The best thing is what you're D is doing by rejecting her. She may be left out, but she's really leaving your husband out. I presume your son is younger and may not have the confidence to do this. maybe he'll reject her over time and this will wear on your H. Get advice from a counselor about your kids.<P>WAT