We are on day 4 after the drunken kissing incident and I am starting to get resentful now. I am beginning to feel like it wasn't "as big a deal" as H is making it seem. I know that as long as it's a big deal to him, it is a big deal, but I feel that there is an underlying problem in the marriage. Some EN of mine (and probably his) is not being met. I found a therapist on Monday, and told H that I was going. At this point he said he knew there were things that he needed to be doing "emotional things that women need" that he wasn't doing. He said he knew that he needed to compliment me more, pay more attention, put more energy into our relationship. I know it's only Wednesday, but so far, nothing. No compliments, no more energy, nothing. I think he may be feeling that since I was the WS, he doesn't need to do anything except concentrate on healing himself. I think he may be avoiding giving me anything at all, on purpose. Is he right - am I the only one who needs to be "righting the wrongs"?