I know that it's terrible of me to get any pleasure out of this, especially this time of year, but I JUST CAN'T HELP MYSELF!!<P>Last evening, H and I had a discussion about a possible divorce. I was furious because he called me last Saturday night after work and said he was driving down to where OW lives. He wouldn't tell me why. Well, when he returned I suggested we have a talk about dividing our assets.<P>I also suggested he find another place to live. I very calmly suggested that he relocate near OW so he wouldn't have to drive so far. Then, he blurted out that he went down there because "her car had been in an accident". (Bad car, bad car!!) And, she needed a ride to the airport. Yeah right. I said, "so they don't have shuttles down there" and "what about all her friends" (which she allegedly has many). Of course he had more excuses like she lives far out from the airport and her ex was out of town. Then I told him that it sounded to me like she really needed him, and since she doesn't seem to have very good driving skills, he should be down there!!<P>I know, I know-- LB's big time!! But, I was very matter of fact, and said these things with no sarcasm or hostility.<P>Anyway, I pretty much had him going and he went on to tell me that their relationship isn't longterm. I asked him if she knows that, and he seems to think so. Although, I would bet my paycheck otherwise. He also told me that she had tried to convince him to quit his job and go up north with her and her kids for the holidays. He told me he just couldn't do that because it "wouldn't be right". When I asked him why he replied, "I can't be getting involved with family things." Then he told me that it "wouldn't be fair to me". When I asked him to clarify he said that I am counting on his paycheck to help with expenses. (Which of course I can do fine without as I proved when he up and left town for six months.)<P>I just find it really, really hard to believe that OW would continue to furiously pursue their relationship if she felt it was simply short term. Then again, who knows. I'm beginning to wonder if she's getting tired of waiting, and is starting to get pushy???<P> <BR>