I implemented plan B two days ago. My wife refuses to leave OM. So I decided that I would no longer support her. We do not live together now, And I really do not see her. However we have contact when I pick up the kids. I wrote her a letter that basically said that I do not want a divorce. I would like to restore our marriage. It was up to her to decide our fate. Until she decides I will no longer give her anymore money than our kids need. I will not baby-sit for her to go out and party (normally w OM). And I want no contact with her until she decides. Since she recieved the letter she has not left me alone. She calls all the time. Now she is being real nice she just says that she does not know what she wants. How do I stay away from her calls. She calls on my cell phone and I try not to answer, but how will I know if it is important. She will not leave a message on my v-mail. She just keeps calling till I answer. And I can not turn off my phone due to line of work. Any suggestions to stay away.

The good news is that plan B seems to be having the desired effect! Maybe you could change your phone number and tell her that she needs to contact you by e-mail if there is a serious issue that needs to be discussed. Or, can you quickly, but politely, end the call when it becomes evident that there is no real need for it? <P>I know it is hard to cut all contact when you have kids, but these are just a few suggestions. Hang in there! Things sound like they are going in the right direction.